So my friends encourage me to talk to a hotline after explaining what between me and my "bf". After…
So my friends encourage me to talk to a hotline after explaining what between me and my "bf". After talking to a hot line, they say my partner was mentally abusing me/emotional abuse.
But what's you opinion??
If all started off when we got pregnant, he stress me out saying I need finish school, get license, have a job??
But now he saying that he didn't stress me out thru my pregnancy..ik it's not 100% his fault that I was stress but at least 25% it was coz u kept repeating ly telling me if I didn't get Al those thing before my baby is born that I'm unfit parent or I don't love enough... Fast forward, he starting to tell me to shut up a lot even after I told him I feel like he disrespecting me when he does but he say he doesn't care....last week Ava given me hard way to go for bed time, I got fustrated after trying for 2hrs and she scratching me, so I demand her to stop (we trying to teacher her wrong and rights) so my bf told me to not yell at her, he clearly see me fustrated, he could've took her from me so I can calm down but he refuse to help me for bed time. Well yesterday he brought home a pack n play, I told him we didn't need it coz we got brand new one we pay 100$ for and we got extra one.. then he told me to shut the fuck up. I told him that I wish hell discuss thing with me before doing so..he say I don't have discussshit with u... I say how u want relationship with me but we communicate and he try to make the decision.. he told me to shut the fuck up.. I panic and yell stop..then he told me I shouldn't yell in front of the baby and I was stupid..yes I admit, I shouldn't yell "stop" but u was disrespecting me and hurting my feelings. so I went in the closet to get dress, and kept constantly telling me how I was stupid for yelling then I say ok ok on. So he push me then slam the closet door close while he was holding our daughter... So I live out to calm down and clear my mind, knowing that he had our daughter...he show up 5*minutes later telling me how retarded I am to leave .. I say I'm clearing my mind and threaten to drag home coz somebody need watch Ava and had to work in "130 hrs" even though he legit live right across street from his job. So I told him no, give me some space and a little time, so he pull up the table I was sitting at, causing me to fall off and almost hit the metal on the swing. So I went to the house and sign up for lmha so I can move out, he telling me how I wouldn't be able to make it with out him and how am I going to afford furniture .. today, he told me coz I wear tank tops and tanks top dont 100% cover my boobs that I look hoeish and not motherly like. I say , if people look at my boobs as a sexual way that them coz my boobs are made for breastfeeding my baby, so I was called stupid and retarded again today, he also told me that he can care less how I feel or think(I'm just like why am I staying with a guy that don't care about my opinion and emotions)... Did I mention when I wanna apply for college, he talk me out of it coz he told me I couldn't afford it.... When I finally got a job, he talk me out of quiting it coz he wanted second job and he knew if I didn't quit my job nobody wouldn't be home to watch out daughter so I had no choice to but quit.
FlowerChild🌼·
Мама сына-младенца
Opinion on what? Based on what you said He DOES mentally and physically abuse you
And I hope you get out of that situation...If not for yourself for the sake of your baby!
keyshla mateo·
Мама дочки-младенца
Is this about you,because you shouldn't have to get treated that way
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Community Admin
@mommyofavaka, As a person who was mentally and emotionally abused for 4 years, get out while you're able. That doesn't sound healthy for you at all. It was the most freeing thing that ever happened to me.
K·
Мама троих детей
@mommyofavaka that's not healthy what you have described and that stuff piles up in your head and that is abuse mentally someone bringing you down maybe you can stay with someone for awhile and seek out counseling to both be on the same page it's not ok to be treated like that , that's my opinion anyways best of luck moma and don't let anyone tell u what u can do or wear that's for you to decide !!!
Cc DeV·
Мама дочки-младенца
Yes, I admit that sometimes we argue so much but I feel like he shouldn't be ok with telling me to shut up and calling me stupid.. Sunday is my birthday and he cancel his plans with me to go into work..ik work is important but it kind of make me feel like I'm not..we never go out, even when my mom offer to watch the baby a night once week so we can go out but he doesn't care.... I told him that I think he emotionally abusing me and all he does is laugh and say I'm overreacting.
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He sounds like a sociopath, hon. He's willing to say anything to make you feel like shit.
Keora Willis·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@mommyofavaka that's DEFINITELY mental and emotional abuse. I know the feeling and I know it's Terrible please get out before you somehow and someway accept it mentally...save yourself please
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Community Admin
@mommyofavaka, Arguing in a relationship is life. It's gonna happen, no one is perfect. But degrading you is NOT normal, and is NOT ok. The last thing you would want is your daughter growing up to think that's how men should treat a woman. Leave that POS in the dust and you'll find someone to give you the world.
FlowerChild🌼·
Мама сына-младенца
@mommyofavaka, he sounds like a psycho....
take your baby and go.
Steph·
Hun I am so sorry but from what you are saying, he is abusing you! You gotta get out of that relationship especially for your baby. You don't deserve to be treated that way! He sounds like a real asshole.
Cc DeV·
Мама дочки-младенца
@87@87crystalball I offer for us to go counseling...all he say "I don't need counseling but u do coz there something wrong with" I admit, I'm ALOT emotional coz the relationship before my current one, I was being sexually abuse and that messed my emotionals
K·
Мама троих детей
@mommyofavaka well he might not think he does but you do and if he really loved you he would go to support you that's the main thing ..
FlowerChild🌼·
Мама сына-младенца
Counseling?! He sounds like he needs way more than counseling. Sorry
Cc DeV·
Мама дочки-младенца
@theinkedmommy I know, I grew up watching my dad down grading my mom and my mom took it..and her reasonto stay was "I knew if I left him, he wouldn't be in u and ur brother's life so I feel like I had no choice but to stay so my kids has their father"...I think that's another reason why I convince myself that I want to make it work
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Community Admin
@mommyofavaka, Hun, staying for a child will ruin your life. You shouldn't have to live a miserable life. A baby won't make a man stay in their life unless they want that. Besides, he's an unfit father figure, clearly. Why waste your time with someone who doesn't appreciate what he has, when there's a man out there waiting to give you the world and more?
Cc DeV·
Мама дочки-младенца
But I even told my mom, u should've left when I was born or even when u got pregnant with me... Coz when I grew up, my dad end up emotionally abusing me through my pregnancy saying I was fat
Cc DeV·
Мама дочки-младенца
@theinkedmommy thank u... As soon as lmha get me in a place, I'm leaving. He can be in his daughter life but only under my supervison
Cc DeV·
Мама дочки-младенца
@torrey_ what's the real crazy part, he butters me up and act like nothing happens... I think that's the reason why it was so hard to stay mad..but as soon as he called me stupid, I knew that it was going too far
FlowerChild🌼·
Мама сына-младенца
@mommyofavaka, if he loved you he would never say things to intentionally hurt you, he would never EVER put his hands on you
He would encourage you to go to school again and get your license...
I hate that your a victim of this but it's time to be the aggressor ...get aggressive with getting yourself together emotionally (for you and your daughter), and financially (so you can show him you don't need him like he thinks).
You don't want your baby thinking it's normal for a man to treat women that way
Cc DeV·
Мама дочки-младенца
That's my goals is to get out, get my job and license. Etc... I can't sit here and feel sad more than I feel happy.