God I'm so sad right now 😪 me and my SO don't fight very often but when we do it's so mean that I…

My husband is like that only we fight often. When hes having a good day we are a match made in heaven and hes a godsend but when hes having a bad day he easily puts me down and calls me names. Hes so hateful and disrespectful towards me

Me and my husband try to watch what we say to each other cause words can be very damaging we've worked on being better people for each other, we don't really call each other names or are disrespectful we just sometimes say things we don't mean, maybe talk to each other and agree to not be disrespectful cause it can be really hurtful

Sorry y'all what does SO mean? Special one?

Yep my husband is like that too he can kill and cut just with his words without cursing it gets me every time sigh. But compromise, saying sorry, and making up right away is key. We never know what's gonna happen and don't want regrets. Feel better

We are actually neighbors I'm in Woodbridge

My SO started being mean like that a few months after we had our son until he just one day decided he didn't want to be nice anymore at all.. he got comfortable in it and I got used to it but unfortunately in my case it turned from mean to disrespect to just plain abuse. Needless to say I left. Can't have my son learn that that behavior is acceptable twords woman or between two people at all. It's not worth it.

@shinanigans, close! It's significant other :) aw nice Woodbridge is close! We should plan a play date in the future! But anyways back to the topic haha that's exactly how I feel about mine. He doesn't have to cuss or yell, but the things he's says are so mean. He could make the most sane person feel like they are being crazy. He's extremely manipulative :/ ugh. Yea we usually make up the same day, but today we didn't. We probably will tomorrow. And the mm the same fight will happen 3 months from now 🙄

@brittneycjo, I'm glad that you got out of that situation! Of my SO was like this all the time I wouldn't be able to take it

@aboutellesbabes Thanks me too! It was nuts that i didn't even realize I had gotten used to it and I would just ignore it change the subject put a smile on for my kid and pray things got better... in reality that only made things worse because this made him think it was acceptable. Sometimes I feel like it's my fault for not properly standing up for myself but my focus was just on keeping our family happy healthy and together and keeping things normal without realizing that I was with a self destructive person. I finally woke up though and realized I don't have time to "wait for things to get better" my son is watching all of this. I saw this look of fear and worry in my son's face the night I left and that did it for me. There's no reason a 6 month old should ever have a look of fear or worry on his face but after what happened even he knew something wasn't right and so I came back with police escort packed my stuff and never looked back. Left behind my apartment all my furniture everything and moved 18 hours away with my brother. My son has never been this happy or smiled this much. It was worth it.

@aboutellesbabes I will pray for you and your family. You guys have two LOs right now one of them being a newborn and that adds more stress on a relationship than you guys realize and everyone has different coping methods. It will be okay though just try to switch things up by really getting to the bottom of what's irritating each other and talk it out instead of judging and insulting. Even if he judges or insults you tell him how you feel about that and why it's not productive and what you both can do to come to a more productive solution. That way he feels heard and involved and you feel heard and understood. I believe once you make it through the rough patch like a few years from now when the kids are a little older and you guys have a little more freedom things will get better for sure.

@brittneycjo, thank you so much! You've been a really big help! I completely agree with you, I think part of the reason our relationship is strained is because we never get a moment to just be with each other. Once they get older I think it will get better, like you said! But we definitely need to talk about finding better ways to have a productive argument because it definitely doesn't do the family any good right now. Thank god they are few and far between right now. I hope they don't become a more frequent thing :/ I'm so happy for you and your son to be able to leave that environment! That's sounds awful 😔 does he see his son at all now? You sound like a wonderful mother! It is heartbreaking seeing your babes get upset.

Thank you🤗 we are in a wonderful loving environment now, my brother is awesome and hes pretty much given us his condo to live in while he spends majority of his time at his girlfriend's house. EJ even has a play room and everything and I sleep in my brother's bed. I'll be able to save money here until I can become independent. But yes it was heartbreaking... that image is burned into my mind. Ill never let him experience that feeling again. The father doesn't see him at all now. From what I heard he's moved around a couple of times and can't keep a job. He's too confrontational and his values are in the wrong places. He has alot of issues that I never realized were so prevalent in his day to day life and unfortunatley he's consumed by it. Hes let his past pain become his excuses to be this awful and selfish person and i think he needs professional help. Everyone's told him that but he's just too prideful for it, doesn't even see it he thinks it's everyone else. He plays the victim constantly so he never self analyzes. He has a long way to go before I trust him around me or Eej. The whole situation is just sad. I'd never want to be involved in such a broken family unit but he's left me without a choice. 😖 Eej will still have the best male influences possible though I'll make sure of that.