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mamalambs
Amanda·Мама дочки (9 лет)
Feeling a little frustrated. Anyone else deal with this?
So I've always wanted to wait a long time for my second kid (about 6 years) and my husband wanted one soon. So I finally got convinced and said yeah you're right and realized I would want my kids closer. But now he's like iffy? He said "let's not try but not try not to" but I said "I'm on birth control so I need an answer to know if I should stop taking it". And he doesn't really give me a direct answer. So I took it as a "no" but then he says he's not saying no! 🙄 I'm so confused. When I start to say never mind he's like no no no! Like he wants one but when I straight up ask him I don't get a clear answer. Just a very odd phase. Wondering if anyone else's husband did this?
27.08.2017
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mamalambs
Amanda·Мама дочки (9 лет)
@simplyshantell, yesss! Sounds just like us! We definitely have more than enough to support another kid! I think he was just raised very wealthy so to him it isn't a lot. But I was super poor so I think I appreciate it more and realize that we will be fine. But to him anything less than $12k is like "survival mode"🙄 it's ridiculous! But he's starting to realize my point thank god hahaha. So I think we will be in agreement tomorrow :) thanks so much
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simplyshantell
🌹Shantell🌹·Мама двоих (7 лет, 12 лет)
With me, I wasn't on the fence because of monetary issues.. It was more that I wanted my life to be less stressful, easier with my baby boy, to enjoy him for as long as possible until he could become more independant and tell me himself he's ready to be a big brother. That was my piece... Luckily my husband and I also bring in well over 6 figures, my husband brings well over that in alone. I am a Real Estate agent on the verge of my brokers license bringing in more than enough on my own as well and we also live in a 4 bedroom house (not including office, bonus/game room etc) on an acre of land in Florida.. I just wanted time with my babes and I just feel like I can relax with this pregnancy because it feels right for me. We have blue cross blue shield premera. Its their best plan and although its still going to cost us work covers the majority since we also get a hefty yearly credit as well. All I can say is, If it feels right for you right now, go for it! Thats the best advice I can give. The worry about $$$ is irrelevant as long as your income is well over your debts, he just sounds like my husband. Very responsible! You guys will do great as long as you are emotionally there concerning adding to the family :) @mamalambs
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mamalambs
Amanda·Мама дочки (9 лет)
@simplyshantell, yes! Thank you

We just talked because I said how he kinda doesn't respond when I try and talk about it. He's worried about money but he does want one. We own our own business. Income has gone down a little bit but we are still making like $9,000 this month. So it's like I know that's low compared to what we usually make but it's more than enough to have another kid! It's just the slow season for us right now. So I kinda explained that to him. He doesn't realize how well off we are so he stresses but we are very lucky to be in the position we are. We have a 4 bedroom house, own a business that usually makes a lot of money, our kid is already almost 2, it's just like we are in a great position. But he's just spooked by our slow season. So I kinda eased his mind saying how our daughter will be out of diapers so it's not like twice the diaper cost, we have a crib, we have amazing insurance that will cover most of the costs, we have good income and a big house, we have everything we need! So after explaining this he kinda relaxed more and he hasn't made a 100% statement yet but I think he's going to tomorrow. He's acting more positive and like I eased his mind :) so fingers crossed!!!
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simplyshantell
🌹Shantell🌹·Мама двоих (7 лет, 12 лет)
It just sounds like he wants another, but hes not 100% he wants to try right now. I can already tell you though that feeling that way, and being semi-okay with it, you wont make it to 6 years!
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mamalambs
Amanda·Мама дочки (9 лет)
@danielswifey, yeah it's just funny because before him and his family have given me soooo much crap about not wanting another and he's really wanted one. Maybe he's nervous because he's in shock I've agreed? Haha. Idk. I'll give him time
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wvgirl
Wvgirl·Мама двоих (7 лет, 8 лет)
@mamalambs seems to me like he's not sure what he wants yet.
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mamalambs
Amanda·Мама дочки (9 лет)
@danielswifey, oh yeah I'm not stopping until I get a definitive answer that's why I'm annoyed is he won't give me a straight answer. He keeps saying "if it happens it happens" but I'm like it won't happen on birth control lol
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wvgirl
Wvgirl·Мама двоих (7 лет, 8 лет)
I would make sure that he is absolutely sure before you stop taking your birth control
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