My family keeps trying to push me away from the army saying it isn't for black women and that I need a real job and how they would devastated if I went thru with it , I'm so freakin sick of this mess 😔
@armyvet_working_mom_of_4, I get on Facebook and all I see is this and that I've had plenty white friends but it's gotten worse down there since I've left and I'm thankful I left when I did bc I don't wanna be apart of that foolery it's childish and it'll never get you anywhere
That's how I feel. I wanna move back to Cali, because its too tiring here. I have never seen so my separation, and it's dumb. Get with 2017 people. Like my bff isn't white, and she came and visited. We got so many looks, and wasn't even funny. On both freaking sides. One person asked me who she was, and I said she's my sister. She said the same thing. Lord. The south sucks. Only thing I like is riding the back roads, and fresh air. Lol
@armyvet_working_mom_of_4, people always wanna make it a black and white thing when that mindset isn't Of God
Yes. Cali guard is a little more laid back. We all do, but some of these southern people act like we don't. So stupid.
@armyvet_working_mom_of_4, I'm a Cali girl as well and honestly I hate race comments it's so annoying like we all bleed the exact same blood it's sad but your right I think I'd regret not doing it just bc my family thinks otherwise God says I have the victory 🙌🏽
I was that girl from Cali who well had an accent. This dude when it was like my third drill in my unit, came up and told me. I'm not a (not so nice word for the black race), and I needed to start acting white. Because this is Alabama. Needless to say after he said that my team member walked in, saw my face. And was gonna beat the shit out of him when I told them. My supply was maybe two white people including myself. He didn't even belong in our tent. Urgh. But with every asshole someone has your back in there. Just speak up. I can say it's an experience you may not want to pass up, because that may be your regret.
@momofroyalty2, some people do regret it. However treat come from the attitude you put out. Like I said. There is those assholes still in, more so if you live in the south. In that case, those idiots don't need to join. I think personally, with your attitude you will do fine. Shiit most the black girls I knew, didn't get messed with. No one even noticed their race to be honest, and I live in Alabama. But see now my husbands unit seems more separated, and they don't realize it. Then you have my husband who doesn't care, and talks to everyone. Now my unit in Cali, has every race in it. It's not all bad! Maybe she met the bad apple like I did! Ruined the whole unit for me.
@armyvet_working_mom_of_4, that's what I'm saying I asked my cousin like what in the heck does being black have to do with anything I can't change who I am nor do I want to but I do wanna do this , I didn't like how she tried to make me feel like bc I'm black it isn't in my best interest and how devastating it would be be for her bc she's in there and she claims it. Was the worst regret of her life
Girl. My husbands first sgt is black. The first sgt I had when I was in is black, and the master sgt of my old unit is black. My husbands 1st sgt ain't no joke, she is a very strong female. Fun thing about the military, especially army. Is there is no race, there's only green. You will run into those asshats, but that's every where. The majority see green.
@missmama92, amen ! I feel the same way f ppls opinions at this point
@momofroyalty2 the lord got me so I know I got this
@momofroyalty2 thats why I'm like its whatever because I've been hardworking since the age of 12
@missmama92, see that's why when your handed things of course you think your better but when you truly work for what you get it causes you to be really humble and I'd rather be humble then stuck up
@momofroyalty2 yea same just wish I wasn't the bottom feeder of it all n yet they don't know all the stuff she done n I do. Plus now she thinks she's better n really stuck up. N she's the only child so she got spoiled to death
@simplyy_scp, amen and I have faith that God won't allow anything to happen to me that isn't supposed to happen to me
@simplyy_scp, thankyou I'm going to and I pray they support it in the end
@missmama92, keep doing what your doing it's fine not being like someone else what works for you is for you what's works for your cousin is for your cousin I had to teach myself that overtime
@momofroyalty2 yea my cousin has no kids and has a masters n they look at me like oh she about to have three kids 🙄😑 its so annoying. Yet I'm the only one who take care of my mom been her caregiver for almost 5years and I'm the youngest and only girl. Smh
@missmama92, lol I get compared to my sisters bc my family thinks I'm doing so much better than them so they put me on this giant pedal stool like I cannot do any wrong it's very annoying
@momofroyalty2 I feel you hun n I understand at least you don't get compared to your cousin. I'm 25 now and still get compared to her and she's 3months younger then me
@missmama92, after my mom passed my siblings and aunt as far as family besides my husband and kids are all I have and my maternal grandparents so I didn't wanna piss them off and make em mad but I mean I wanna do this for myself I wanted to at 18 but I had my kids and cared for them then at 21 my mom died which set me back now I'm 22 and I'm like okay I'm ready
If you wanna do it do it over the years I listen to alot of people about alot of things
@momofroyalty2, yea they definitely don't need to say those things and make you or that Job less than. I would just ignore it and keep doing what your doing . I wish you all the best of luck .
@krenee1120, I understand being worried but if I tell them I want to and have already started everything as far as the process goes they need to accept it instead of making me feel like it's not a real job and this and that
Well that's crazy , I would enlist now frankly with all these wars and war rumors going on . I believe in none of them . But that's me. Your family is probably just worried .

I will be 41 :/
Short Luteal Phase?
I've just started temping because I believe that the reason I haven't had a BFP yet, after 20 months, is because I believe I may have a Luteal Phase Defect.
Things I never thought I'd say...
Until I became a mom:
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
This is true.