My mind and my heart are at peace. My bf and I had decided on splitting up a few days ago. It's not what I wanted bc I know In my heart he's one.
Anyways he has another daughter from another woman. She has had a problem with watching adult films and I believe is addicted to it, bc she will go to extreme lengths to do so. I've been telling him you need to talk to her or, as it seemed to get worse, you need to get her help and speak to her mother. I didn't want to spend our relationship worrying about what kind of trouble she may get into as she gets older with this problem. Also we have a daughter and I didn't want our daughter growing up with a sister I could never trust and it may have an affect on our daughter. I wasn't having that so I told him it'll never work out if you don't get her help, I wasn't going to maybe risk my daughters well being because he and his baby momma were inattentive parents and that's why we decided to split up.
The day after we decided to split (and a full night of crying) I asked him straight up, do you really love both of your kids? Do you really love me? Your (other) daughter obviously needs professional help and your denying her because it makes you uncomfortable to talk to her mom and your in denial about the issue? So what she has a problem but fuck don't leave it like it is, ignoring it doesn't make it go away. Like wtf i shouldn't have had to go to this length to get him to see how stupid this all was, but he finally saw it too, at that point.
So he talks to her mother and she says "yeah she has had this problem for a long time, I tried to get her into counseling but they're booked" And you can imagine my mind is just blown, even her pill popping crazy mom can see she needs help. But now she will for sure get the help she needs, her mother is looking into it.
We are indeed together still and forever, I can't imagine my life without him. My beautiful blended family is set in stone and is looking forward to a wonderful future.