@samanthaann that's what I'm trying to avoid. This is my first baby and It's already a lot to handle without constant visitors right away lol

No definitely not selfish! I will be allowing only me my fiancé and my mom next time for the first day. I was bombarded by people as soon as the dr said it was okay and I was not impressed with it

@gennaraetarallo same. I love my mom she's my best friend but I'm also kind of on the fence about having her in there or not. She's traveling soooo far to be with me I feel it would be rude to make her wait in the waiting room lol

That's what i plan on doing altho I'm still debating whether my mom will be in there or not with me...

Not selfish at all. No one will be in my delivery room except my fiance and we probably won't take visitors until we are settled in at home. This is a very stressful and important time for you, some people won't understand that, but you have to take care of yourself and your little family more than other people's feelings.

That's how I was with my older children but this time I had my husbands whole family come see us lol there was so many visitors. I love them tho and I've always wanted a big family that I get along with. It made me feel super supported which is what I needed but if you need space and time alone with your baby and your man then that's 100% fine!! Don't worry about if people get mad. They should understand and just make sure to break the news nicely!!

I did it for this one.

I did that w my last and my sister did same .. People will understand..

@mminor90, she just has to respect your wishes. She can come when she is allowed to

That's usually how it goes anyways lol @mminor90

@annmelendybrooke thanks! I just have a feeling my mother in law is going to react poorly knowing my mom will be there and she won't be. My mom lives 1000 miles away and is coming to be with me through it all. I hope my mother in law understands.

Not at all. She's your daughter and you're the one going through labor to bring her in to this world.

U most definitely are not being selfish. I decided I don't want visitors til 24 hours after I give birth. My boyfriend is the only one who is going to be in the room during the entire labor. We just went through all that time of pushing or getting a c section and we need that time to come to terms with everything. And if anyone can't respect your wishes then screw them. This is not only your little ones coming into the world time but it's also ur time to enjoy her and prepare yourself for visitors. YOU ARE NOT BEING SELFISH!