My deal was with my daughters father that she gets my last name end of story and when he's man enough to marry me, we can change her last name when I change mine. He's now a dead beat and has been gone for 5 months lol so I'm glad I didn't put his name anywhere in hers

@ttowler1993, exactly mama. Unless he won't put a ring on it, it's not his decision. And ultimately it is your decision. He legally has no say since you're not married

Exactly my son has both mine and his dads name i dont get why its such a big deal

@ttowler1993 and like I said, she won't always need to use both last names.

@ttowler1993 I'm sure he'll get on board with the hyphenated at that point lol

@arcsmomma, lmao i like the way you think

@ttowler1993 If he doesn't believe in marriage that's his fault. Tell him unless there's a ring on your finger, you want a hyphenated name. Or you could say it's either a hyphenated name or just your last name 🤗

@ttowler1993 Tell him too bad. The person doing the birth certificate is gonna listen to you, so you're gonna have final say really.

@arcsmomma, i say the same thing

@ttowler1993 Too bad lol

@arcsmomma, see im trying to and hes not going fo it

@ttowler1993 So hyphenate the last name. It's not just his kid. If y'all really want to change it later on you can.

@arcsmomma, see my sons has mine and his dads last name. His dad was fine with it bt because my bfs other kids are alvarez he said he wants to stick to it bt i dont think thats fair if i dont got a ring on it

Put both names. She won't always have to go by both unless it's official paperwork. Tell him too bad.

@kambam, and whats worse is my bf doesnt believe in marriage 😭

My son has my last name 😂 I dont believe in that if youre not married too. You do all the paperwork after, your choice ultimately