How many of you feel as if your in laws are trying to one up you? I had bought my 4 yr old 10 dollar Velcro shoes at Walmart for school because I feel like kids that age don't care about stuff like that, well he shows the in laws and that same day around 3 hours after I bought them they go out and buy him flashy new 50 dollar light up shoes and I just get this vibe and the look that is in their eyes is pure discuss, like 'how can she not car what he's wearing' or 'those are cheap and we don't do cheap'. Like I grew up trying to get money to stretch and making it last while they grew up with money and then complain when they don't have any from buying (in my eyes) unnecessarily expensive stuff. It makes me feel like a shit mom because money is tight and I can't afford high dollar shoes and every time I try to talk to my husband he gets all 'defensive' and turns it into an argument. Yea sometimes he's miss matched but damn at least he has clean clothes and shoes, price shouldn't matter. I just feel defeated and a shit mom 90% of the time. It doesn't just happen with my oldest they do the same shit with my 15 month old. This shit isn't going to last, they are going to outgrow this stuff. I just feel like it's unnecessary to spend that much on one item when I can get good shoes at 10$. I don't know what to do.