This was taken a little over a year ago. I remember this day so clearly. It was the day we found out…
This was taken a little over a year ago. I remember this day so clearly. It was the day we found out if our child was a boy or girl. This was also the day I realized that I found the LOML. Or so I thought... Don't get me wrong he's been an amazing partner through out my first pregnancy and been an amazing father for our daughters first 5 months.
Unfortunately people change. The man who I thought was the LOML and amazing father ended up being the man he said he would never be. He went from being respectful and loving to shady and irresponsible . At first I thought no biggie he's hanging out with his friends let him do he's guy things. Then he would tell me he'd be home soon. Soon turned to hours then turned to the following day. I brushed it off at first because he never would go out and I wasn't so hard on him about it. But it became consistent. Calls weren't being answered nor texts being replied. What made things worse was his he needed to pick up our daughter from the sitters one day and never showed up to pick her up.
I was livid I called and texted so much that when he finally came home he packed up all his things and left. He told me I was smothering him. It all went down hill from there. We eventually broke up. We tried to work things out but it felt like it was only me bringing 100% to the table. We broke it off for good when my daughter was 7 and a half months. (Our daughter is now 1)
I later found out I was pregnant. I was afraid and didn't know what to do. I looked in to terminating my pregnancy but the thought of it didn't feel right I couldn't do it. I loved my daughter when I found out I was pregnant with her. Why would I terminate my second child. I still feel guilty thinking about it today. I'm 18wks. I told their father about the pregnancy and the past months he's been trying to come in and out of our life.
Just recently before our daughters first birthday. My children's father and I were trying to work things out. He would tell me he loved and missed us. How he wanted to come home. But it was just words. He hasn't put in any effort to see us or be a family. Since we were broken up he's only seen his daughter once or twice a month. Bare in mind I ask him when he'll come and see her and he says he'll let me know, or he says he'll come this day and when the day comes he is no where to be found. I don't hold her against him, he knows where we live and I told him the doors are open for him to visit. I've never asked for child support but he doesn't offer to help pay for our daughters expenses.
Anyways.... After our last conversation about how he loved and missed us and wanted to be a family I found out he has a new girlfriend. I feel abandoned, alone, used and unloved. I cry for my daughters. All I wanted to do was give them a mother and father. But I don't want my daughters to grow up seeing mommy get walked all over. I know I deserve better, and that was the final straw. I've been really emotional and afraid. I know I'm not the only one going through this. How did you mamas do it. How did you heal and find your strength again. This is all new to me and I'm afraid.
Harmonie·
What's loml?
Lynnnn·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@diegosmommy0213, love of my life
Harmonie·
@lynn022593, sorry I'm not up to date w the lingo on here
Sorry about ur ex I hope it gets easier for u
Lynnnn·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@diegosmommy0213, it's okay. And thank you I hope so too. In the process of healing
Harmonie·
@lynn022593, yes I heard it takes time
How long were u two together before u had ur first baby
Lynnnn·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@diegosmommy0213, 9 months.
Harmonie·
@lynn022593, good amount
Angelina C·
В ожидании первенца
I'm sorry, if you ever want to talk I'm here! Me and my baby daddy are currently having problems and I don't know how to handle / deal or what to do.
Lynnnn·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@angelina_cxoxo, me to I really don't know what do it's been months but know that he has a new girlfriend it's like a slap to my face 😢 how do you try to say you miss your family still love me yet you go ahead and get a new gf. He's only seen his daughter 12 times in the last 6 months. Hasn't contributed anything. Nor asked about her. I'm done. I'm tired of giving him chances and being disrespected I need to show my daughters how to grow up to be strong women
Angelina C·
В ожидании первенца
@lynn022593, and your so much better than how your being treated right now, you and your daughters, you guys don't deserve it ... I know it's hard trust me , and you just want what's best , but sometimes letting go and moving forward is what's best. Focus on you and your daughters! They need you..
Katie·
Мама сына-младенца
You're so much better without him and so are your girls. I'm raising my son by myself. His father is supposed to pay 300 a month, but is owes over 1000 and told me "you only care about the money, this isn't about our son". So I will be going to court.... this came after I let his mother and him visit whenever they would like. Guys are assholes. My son has a brother who's 2 months older than him and may have another sibling soon..... 🤦🏼♀️
Lynnnn·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@krprincipe, how did you first cope with it? Handling your child. Her father hasn't paid anything yet because I just started filing for full custody.
Katie·
Мама сына-младенца
I live with my mom, so thankfully she helps when I need it. But it wasn't that hard. I've been a single mother the whole time. I want full custody but I don't think they'll allow it. The money is pain in the ass though, I want to just stop interacting with him but I'm building a case and my son deserves everything. So he will be paying something, because all we have now is an agreement between ourselves. SAVE EVERYTHING!!! Any info you have or texts bring with you.
Lynnnn·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@krprincipe, I wish I did I deleted our texts ugh this is so frustrating. My daughters deserve everything to. I live with my parents they have been an amazing help so I can work.
Katie·
Мама сына-младенца
Yea, my mom watches my son so I can work! Save whatever you have now and think about character witnesses for your case (in case they need someone to vouch for you or explain why he's unfit)
Lynnnn·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@krprincipe we got this. 💪🏼 I have a lot of my friends and family who all know the truth.
Katie·
Мама сына-младенца
There you go!!! Seriously, I tried to make it work with him til my son was 2 months and it was just stupid. I've been so much more relaxed and can actually enjoy my son
Lynnnn·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@krprincipe, he was there for my entire pregnancy and fort 6 months. The months after he wasn't soo supportive then we were on and off I got pregnant and has not be there for our 2nd daughter. He's seeing someone else now and she's the priority
Katie·
Мама сына-младенца
Always! My ex just decided to start 2 families at the same time and my son is not important