I got a callback for a one on one interview this Friday and hubby plans on giving his two weeks notice. It was a good day til hubby picked a fight. Had me crying for a few hours. I tried showing and explaining to him how I calculated our finances for when I do get this job. Just to see where we stand. He instantly (without seeing my calculations) said I was wrong over and over again. He then complained my lack of keeping the house cleaned liked I normally did. Yeah I got held back. Ppd hit me hard lately. I'm trying to fight back but I end up falling even more. He didn't even try to understand. He yelled and criticized me, making me feel like I'm not that smart and I'm lazy. I cried for hours and I'm just...I don't know. I know every relationship has issues and does argue time to time but damn. I'm just....I don't know what to think honestly.
Well perhaps what you need to do is do you. If you need to go back to work for you're own well-being do so, he cant exactly stop you. And if he threatens to leave or something tell him to go ahead. If hes a man child well, i guess its one more responsibility you don't have to worry about. How i personally see it he needs to step it up or take a seat bc there is someone else who wouldnt mind filling his spot.
@geekymomma13 he won't listen...is barely changing diapers for once. He yells my name, while I'm cooking, to bring him a diaper even though they're next to the bed. I keep telling him I'm not able to stop working to come home to bring him a diaper. Our daughter is 3 months and is teething. He is willing to put alcohol in her mouth on her gums to help but I told him I'm not comfortable especially if it'll numb her throat making it hard for her to swallow. And while he plays his games and has her in his arm, he lets her cry for a while til he is st some stopping point so he can calm her down. I'm worried about working but he isn't even saving up for a better place and keeps spending money on stupid crap instead of taking care of our responsibilities. He's being a total manchild and I'm sick of it and is why I'm trying to work so I can rub it in his face that I provide better than he can
This doesnt go for all men bc some are stay at home dads but mine and yours have no idea what its like being at home most of the time, taking care of a newborn and housework. I just told my man tonight that he wouldn't be able to do what i do all day not bc hes a bad dad or lazy, he's just not made for it example: he's just not a homebody like me, he cant deal with her piercing cries bc shes teething as long as i can. I let him know that my job is 24/7. Once hes off work he's done for the night but I'm still "working" and probly til midnight or later. On top of that ppd? It'd be more than enough for anybody but they just cant grasp how hard it really is. Sure it looks easy but walk him through a day in your shoes? He may get the drift. You kinda have to dumb it down for them, let him know ppd is real it affects us more than we let on.
@augustinag84 I tried telling him he hurt me. But all I got was "not trying to be a dick but you're pissing me off by letting it go to shit. Maybe you shouldn't get a job if you're so miserable now. What if you're miserable st work" yada yada. But I'm miserable being stuck at the house I've told him that multiple times. I want to go work and interact with people
I'm like 95% sure that men have no filter and think that we are just overly emotional creatures. I hate the whole "keeping the house clean" fight (we've had many) because most of the time it's his crap that needs to be picked up. And I totally get you on PPD and everything, some days are better than others. ❤️ I hope it gets better momma. I'm always here if you need to talk. I'm sorry your husband is being a dick.