Okay ladies, I really need some advice... my own parents have called DSS on my boyfriend and I twice now. Why? I really…
Okay ladies, I really need some advice... my own parents have called DSS on my boyfriend and I twice now. Why? I really wish I could tell you, but I honestly don't know... After DSS left the first time the lady said to me "I'm really sorry this ever had to happen to you. You guys are doing a wonderful job as parents and when I speak to your parents I will make it clear to them that calling DSS on someone isn't something that should be taken lightly." Well that was a couple weeks ago and we just got our letter in the mail saying our case was closed. So today me and my mom got into a verbal argument, not even a heated argument, and my dad comes barging into the room, pins me in a corner WHILE I'M HOLDING MY SON and says "I suggest you get the fuck out right now before the cops get here, and don't worry, you'll be hearing from DSS again soon and that's not a threat, it's a promise" I really feel hopeless and have been crying nonstop since he said that to me. My own dad... I can't live my life in fear that my kid is going to be taken away from me. I really can't even shower now without him being in the room because that's how scared I am. I know I have no reason to be because there's nothing that would give them cause to take him away from us, but it's still terrifying me for some reason. And I'm just very hurt and don't know how to handle my parents. I love them and thought this would stop, but it isn't and I'm not sure if I need to cut off communication with them or there's anyone I can call to say that my parents just call DSS whenever they get mad at me... idk...
Makayla·
Мама сына (1 год)
Some info that I think is important is when I first told my mom I was pregnant her response was "well I pray that you miscarry because that's the best option for every one" (since she didn't think it was okay for me to be 21 and not married with a baby) and since then she has always said "well if anything ever happens you know I won't let anyone stop me from getting custody of him"
Stephanie·
Girl, only you know what to do but why have that drama in your life?! They are the ones missing out. You enjoy your life and hopefully they realize what they are missing.... You and your baby..... And make an attempt to be in your life again. I hope you find peace soon.
Megan·
I accidentally deleted my comment, but it said that my ex mil called on me once and i was also investigated and the case was closed. She did it out of spite, they told me afterwards if she did it again she'd be the one in trouble. They don't take false claims lightly. They'll see what's going on! Don't sweat it!
Sarah Martinez·
Мама сына (1 год)
This is awful, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. My sister has made vague threats about doing the same when we've had differences of parenting opinions and that was terrifying enough, I can't imagine having them actually called.
I don't think you would be in the wrong at all for cutting contact with them. You must be an exceedingly kind and forgiving person to not have just cut them off after the first time. Whatever decision you decide to make, I hope this situation gets better for you! You sound like an amazing mama.
Breezy·
My heart hurts for you.
IMO you should definitely cut off complete communication. There's no justification for calling DSS on parents doing a good job at raising their kid, just because you're all up in your own feels. And for ANY person to pin you up against a wall WHILE holding your child. Thats considered assault YOU could've called the cops on him & had him arrested. That's extremely uncalled for and very concerning, not only for your well being but for the safety of your own child. I believe if someone is capable of doing that, then they are capable of going the extra mile and hitting you with your child in your arms.
Steph·
I am so sorry you are dealing with that. Honestly, I would cut off all ties with your parents. If my parents did anything like that to me, that would be the end! It sounds like DSS knows this is a bullshit call from them. I would imagine they take false claims seriously! I wound can the cops on your dad!!! That's no way to treat your own grown child. I hold you can move on from this!!
Kandy Brown·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Ik it's your parents but it's time to cut ties with them for a while.
Makayla·
Мама сына (1 год)
@mc.squared, thank you so much, this gives me hope
Makayla·
Мама сына (1 год)
@momofgirls1517, thank you so much, and I didn't take anything you said offensively 😊 I don't have any other family that I speak to, they all are either deceased or live far away
Makayla·
Мама сына (1 год)
@brendamariex3, fortunately I don't live with them, just very close, like 5 minutes away and they're really the only family I have. It's not the first time my dad has put his hands on me but the law didn't do such a good job handling that the first time that happened when I was 15 and got charged as a run away...
Makayla·
Мама сына (1 год)
Thank you everybody who responded, you all are so helpful and loving. It just hurts my heart because they are all my family, and it also hurts that there are children out there that are actually being neglected and abused and they can't get all the help they need because stuff like this happens where people get angry and spiteful 😔