I love how I pst on fb about having a rough day and needing wine due to kids being out of hand today turns into I should use a paddle like said mother and maybe that will work cuz she uses it on her kids. I explain I will not use a paddle I don't believe my kids should fear me because when they need me they will only think of the fear they hold. She then starts saying a bunch of stuff about how we all parent different and she finds using a paddle works. Well that's fine if you think that but when you use that paddle next time and it leaves marks and bruises don't be posting how social services showed up at your door. In Missouri a state dfs worker told me yes you spank your kids but only three spanks on the bottom with your hand and it better not leave any marks or bruises or it is considered beating.... I love moms and believe we should have each other's backs but sometimes the kids need someone having their backs. I told her I will not use a paddle ever I was beat by a paddle growing up by my bio dad and mom and I feel like a kid should be a kid as long as they can. I was 6yrs old and cooking for a family of 6 and cleaning while taking care of my 1yr old sister because my parents had to work every minute of their life so they could afford their drugs and booze. So no I will not make my kids grow up to fast and I will not use anything but my palm to busy their bottoms.