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Ashley Wareyko
Ashley Wareyko
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего

Here's something that's been on my mind. I was in an abusive relationship for almost 4 years, when we split ways I had…

Here's something that's been on my mind. I was in an abusive relationship for almost 4 years, when we split ways I had to cut him out completely. We lived together so I had to move away, I ended up seeing someone new a few months later and he stalked me and found me and messed with my car. I had to file police report after police report nothing was done. I moved away again a few towns over but still driving the same car. My boyfriend was driving my car and seen my ex, my ex made the nastiest U turn in the middle of a busy street followed my boyfriend and when he seen it wasn't me in the car he turned in other direction. I'm tired of running I shouldn't have to run away, its been over a year and he moved halfway across the US for awhile. He had tried to return my stuff (stuff that he claimed was from childhood etc, he contacted my mom) I went to pick it up in a store parking lot, most of it was bullshit. Shirts that weren't mine, a game console, missing the connections game and controllers. His crap and sprayed it with cologne. My bf followed me in a separate car and watched him that's how he knows what this guy looks like and drives. I have bumped into him once a few months ago in the beginning of my pregnancy and he almost hit my car (he was driving like an idiot.) he seen me acted like he was going to do something but then just took off in the opposite direction screeching his tires and stuff. What can be done? I'm afraid to go to the cops and report anything because they always shrug me off and im scared a restraining order will only piss him off more and give him my exact address where he will be screwing with me AND my newborn baby.

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mommyirene

Irene ElizabethМама дочки-младенца, беременна (12 нед.)

@rawwrdinoox, with the restraining order him or his family can not contact you in any way. They can't come close. Trust me. It's the best way to go. Especially now that I have my daughter I feel so much safer.

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rawwrdinoox

Ashley WareykoМама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего

Its also very unnerving that I had a pair of used panties that went missing the night after I was attacked and left... That I could never find after I searched the entire bedroom because I was allowed there once to get my things while I had someone wait outside

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rawwrdinoox

Ashley WareykoМама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего

@mommyirene at that point I didn't want anything but to leave. I was afraid if I put him in jail and had him arrested him or his family would come after me trying to hurt me. So I just told the cops what happened that I just wanted to leave and wanted my stuff. When I called the cops and asked them to escort me to get my things the police knocked on the door and where my ex and his brother answered and they said "what things? We threw them away and gave away the cat." come to find a few months later after an altercation with my ex and a guy I was seeing at the time, he did have my stuff and come months after that he wanted to return more stuff and about 6 months after that.... He still has more stuff in which I refuse to pick up and just let go of all my stuff he has kept/keeping.

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mommyirene

Irene ElizabethМама дочки-младенца, беременна (12 нед.)

@rawwrdinoox, they didn't arrest him? The day my ex beat me. I went to the police station. Gave my report. They contacted him telling him that he had to turn himself him. So he did and then they served him with the restraining order.

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rawwrdinoox

Ashley WareykoМама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего

@mommyirene I really think I have to file one, I had a report the night I left because he literally was beating me and people seen. The cops ended up driving me to my mothers house where I only stayed two days.

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dreamermom

TiffanyМама двоих (младенец)

@rawwrdinoox, it's not an easy place to be... always error on the side of caution... when someone is unstable you just never know what's going to set them off... one time they react one way... the next could be totally different! We recently had someone killed near where I live... it was an ex boyfriend who got angry, showed up where he knew she'd be... shot at her car and killed her friend who was with her! It was super sad!

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rawwrdinoox

Ashley WareykoМама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего

@dreamermom I'm just really worried because I'm not sure if he knows I'm pregnant or not(i have him blocked on fb and changed my number and passwords for everything but we went to high school together and I'm sure he still has friends in common.) when I'm not pregnant he has a habit of being an asshole trying to inflict harm or mess with me, but one as pregnant before and lost the baby and he acted very nice. Brought a handful of my stuff to the police station and then moved away, I guess since he's found out there was no longer a baby now he wants me back or just wants to torture me.

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mommyirene

Irene ElizabethМама дочки-младенца, беременна (12 нед.)

I would file a restraining order.

I was in a abusive relationship myself. He finally left me alone when I file the restraining order and they served him with it. Best decision I made in that relationship. Lol

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dreamermom

TiffanyМама двоих (младенец)

Sadly, all you can do is keep reporting his actions... they won't do much, but if he ever does do something stupid and tries to hurt you... they will have record of all the other stuff, and his punishment will be far worse, since it's been a pattern! I had something similar happened to me... I ended up moving several times, he would find where I live and show up break into my car and leave things in it, or pull a spark plug wire so my car would not start... would scream an yell from the street... making a huge scene... I actually started dating a cop, after him... that's how I learned how limited they were at doing anything... at one point he hacked into my email, then did a 'forgot my password' through my cell phone provider, reset my password, and downloaded all of my cell phone call history, and started calling all sorts of people threatening them... one of which was my cop boyfriend... he asked for other officers to drive past my house more frequently... but until he actually did something to me... his hands were tied! My ex also got into my bank account the same way and saw the places I frequented, and times I would go... I had to literally change all of my habits... I ended up moving in with the largest male friend I had... changed my plate number on my car... changed cell phone providers, and banks... and stopped going places I was familiar with... it really sucked, but that was the only way I could get away from him!

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