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Jessica DeShields
jessica.deshields
Jessica DeShields
So aggravated I just want to cry but it solves nothing only makes it worse. Guess since I don't keep up with laundry due to the heat and only having window units I'm a lazy bitch. But sad part he doesn't help even on his days off. I don't get to sleep while he cares for the baby on his days off. I'm to cook him dinner and supper clean everything up get kids taken care of and off to bed then up with the little precious baby. I deal with her crying and love on her to sooth her as for him he yells at me to hurry up and come get her. I'm so aggravated and sick of doing this. I love him beyond words but I've gotta make something happen. He didn't change any from when we separated I have fixed a lot and show him more love and appreciation as for him I'm still waiting for it. Everyone says you gotta scare them into fixing the issue well I tried and he said he would work on it and it hasn't happened in the year we have been back.
21.07.2017
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mommys4angels
mommys4angels
@jessica.deshields I'm sorry he doesn't understand how hard it is to be a stay at home mom. I have put a blanket up so the part of the house we are all in stays some what cool. No mother should have to put up with a man like that. I would help you with the kids but we don't live close to each other.😔 I no it's hard not having anytime to yourself I really understand. I don't even get alone time myself. My oldest is 10 and gives me attitude all the time about helping me with cleaning up after himself even doing the dishes when there's like 10 dishes in there he complains about everything my husband on the other hand when he is home he helps as much as he can
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He won't change until you give him a reason too. Doesn't matter what you do. He needs a smooth kick in the rear end
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jessica.deshields
jessica.deshields
@miniwolfe, I have family close but they are no help. His parents own a tattoo shop so they are crazy busy his brother and his wife are busy as they own a real estate agency and that's about all we have. I have no friends that are willing to help me they only want from me and when they don't need anything they are quiet to me. I feel like we need to each get a notebook And write our daily feelings then let each other read them so we know what to help with and work on together. I just wish he would listen and have an open mind to something in this. I love the man he can be a great dad and husband he's been that before so I know he has it in him. It's just he's gotten use to me doing everything over the past few years. I'm going back to work so he doesn't have to pay the bills alone and support us alone the least he could do is help me around the house so I don't feel alone and keep doing it all alone.
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jessica.deshields
jessica.deshields
@miniwolfe, I have done that right along with calmly talking to him about how it makes me feel and he's the kind that doesn't care you shouldn't cry or be upset because it makes him even more furious. I have talked about counseling but he's all against that. I just feel so alone with him anymore. He's all asking if I've mad my dr appt yet. Yea I'll get to that when kids get in school because I have all these up coming dr visits for the kids school functions about to start and I just don't have time when there are four of them. I don't have ppl to watch my kids so I can go to the dr and he sure as hell won't watch them cuz he just goes to sleep.... I'm just so upset and want to scream.
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jessica.deshields
jessica.deshields
@beebaby, that's what I keep explaining to him. Being a parent doesn't mean we get time off. Work or no work your a parent and a spouse time to help. I'm just so over this.
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jessica.deshields
jessica.deshields
@mommys4angels, I get some people will do laundry in the heat but if the house is hot then he becomes a bitch. I'm not about to heat up my house with a small baby to end up hot and fussy. I may be a stay at home mom but it's only temporary I'm going back to work so that is not relevant even when I worked three jobs at once I was still to keep up on my house and kids.
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Marriage to me is 100/100. I don't care what you do outside the home or how many hours you need to help period. That ain't happening in my house. If I am doing it alone then I can be alone. No need to have someone bringing me dowb
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mommys4angels
mommys4angels
I'm sorry but my husband is a truck driver and gone 3 to 4 weeks a month home 4 days at home with us. I do everything and I mean everything. He trys to help but when his on the road his by himself so when he gets home he's bombarded with all 3 kids plus the baby he tries his best to help me even with me taking a nap marriage is 50/50 yes but you're also his wife and I don't see you working I don't work I'm a stay-at-home mother that's my job I cook clean and do everything around the house when he gets home I still do the same thing I know it's hard we have one wall unit and about 10 fans and I still do laundry washing and drying with a ten-year-old a five year old and 18 month old and a 7 week old baby and the house if he's not willing to help you kick rocks
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kambam
kambam
Thats not right at all. I dont care if a man works, he needs to be part of the family. 50/50. I went OFF on my ex. Im not his mom. So all his dishes and dirty laundry ended up in bed with him if they weren't done. OR they go in the trash 👋 marriage isn't meant to enslave someone for an assistant. Its for teamwork, love, encouragement. Im so sorry, mama.
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