I am so sorry girl! :( my S/O says the same thing to me about asking for help with our children but when I need help and ask he either isn't home (At work or out with friends) or he is home and complains. Sometimes I don't like asking him for help because I want to think I can do everything by myself but in all reality I do need help, and so do you! Maybe try to plan a 'family meeting' and discuss all of your problems. Write everything down that you feel ( like little things he could be doing for you) to make things a lil easier on you! Or maybe even write down a schedule for yourself and the babies so that you can make sure you have some time for yourself too!