@divinemother thanks keep your head up girlie

@saniyyahhasan wow that is insane. You would think when men become fathers; especially to daughters, they would treat women with more respect. Unfortunately, not all men are wise. I am glad you no longer have any issues with your baby's father. Congratulations on the 4th 😊

No problem I wish I had someone to talk to during my younger years dealing with my ex. That's how you know he a coward. My ex rather argue with me but my hubby can be mentioned he folds up like a b**ch smh. It's quite funny. My hubby met up with my ex to drop our child to him. He begged me to just drop our child at the store by her self I refused. He gave me like 3 excuses why my hubby don't have to meet him. I just laughed n smh. My ex rather drop our child in another city 45 minutes away (over my sister's house) than to meet my hubby 5 minutes away smh we just laughed bc he literally did it. That's how afraid he is. N my hubby didn't put his hands on him he just talked crazy to him n popped over his house twice once sat down n his house n told him they not friends n to leave "my wife along. The next time I come over here it's not going to be pretty" then the last time he popped there n called him n told him he know he didn't move like he said...I don't have any major issues with my ex anymore I can handle his petty bs not bc it's my way or no way. I don't have time to give my attention I have 4 kids now n house n hubby to worry about nut just him n his BS lol

@saniyyahhasan I truly appreciate you taking your time to help me with my baby's daddy drama. It is crazy how most men need a good scare to get the point... lol. I will keep my head held high

@divinemother it took years of BS from him to give me strength. Our child is 13 n she see right through him. She still love him n I don't get in the way of that but she know he not right too. He will get the point over time. Just stand your ground to your decision. you will find someone who will treat you much better. N will stand his ground that your ex will respect you no matter what. Bc real men are protector of their woman.

The problem is this....I learned this about my BD whatever negative he say to you that's what he think about his self. He knows your a good mom but hated his self bcuz he not a good dad. Girl do you..I been broken up with my ex for 11 yrs now I moved on n married n he still hating on me bc I moved on n is happy. My hubby had to scare him a few times b4 my ex got the point he can't try that mess anymore. He will try to argue with me about our child but now I tell him this how it's going to be n I'm not going back n fourth with him. I don't have time with him I don't answer text from him or even be on the phone with him argue. I don't stress about anything when it comes to him. I learned he mean nothing good for me there fore he don't mean nothing good for our child. Don't let him stress you out. Just do what you need to do block the other stuff out you have a child to focus on stress free.

@saniyyahhasan strong women 💪 I envy you. Thank you lots. I will no longer allow my emotion to empower me! He will just have to deal with the way it is. It is most likely payback from God, who knows... lol

@babyveach thanks for your support 😊 I will not interfere and just allow them to work things out on their own

@divinemother My baby dad did that for the longest it use to get to me when I was young but now he know I would laugh n his face. She old enough to tell him how wrong he is for doing things to me. Believe me it's not you it's him he talking about.

@divinemother baby girl you have to keep her first so if you feel like that's what you gotta do then who am I to tell you your wrong. I don't know the situation so I really can't tell you an educated opinion. Ya know.

@babyveach that makes so much sense! Yes, thank you. Would I be a bad mother if i just left their relationship the way it is?

@saniyyahhasan I do try and keep it civil but then he plays the "you are a bad mom" card like it is my fault my daughter does not want to be around him. I will be filing for divorce soon; he needs to find other alternatives in which I am trying to help. Any suggestions on how to get DD to bond with her farther?

Just be civil with him for your child's sake as much as you can

@cubanese I totally agree. Getting back together is a no no. Any suggestions on how to get DD to bond with her father?

I always say listen to your gut. If u say the relationship is diem the drain then you shouldn't go back bc you will remember why it was over. I say try to be civil with him for your child's sake. I been there with both my kid's dads. (My first two kids different dad) especially my oldest daughter dad we can't get along bc he never let the past go even when we tried long ago to get back together he just started the same jerk he is now. So we just try our best to be civil with each other. My family have to be the middle man bc we conflict alot.

If there is no fixing your relationship then staying friends or atleast civil for the sake of your daughter. But the fact that he only sees her I'm assuming when he wants to she is only a baby and may know who he is but if you aren't around that much she can't be comfortable around him. If that makes sense.