Okay so im the only one who gets up with the baby, changes, feeds, consoles, cuddles, etc. Also I'm the only one with a…

@nicoclev, I'm so sorry!!!! It is so tough... I learned that if I don't have any "expectations" I feel a lot better... then... when my hubs gets home.... ✌️ out! I run for the hills!!!! I literally go out and do anything to give me a few seconds of quiet time and me time! Message me anytime though, we can bitch together 😂😂😂

And @purpledpink thank you for saying all of this! I spend so much time on FB and instagram just so I can see adult things and have 'conversations'.

@purpledpink I've had the same conversation. It hasn't helped. I don't think he'll realize until I actually just leave him.

So I had this convo with my husband. Let me start off with saying, my husband does help, however, I'm the one who does most of it bc, well, I'm a control freak... however, my son has very specific needs, he has heart and lung problems and is not able to go to school probably until he is about 2. Both my husband and I work full time, I am lucky to where I can work from home most days. Sooooo... with all that being said, I stay home with out youngest, I take care of him, the house and keep my job (I'm the primary bread winner). My son has needs and cries some days, ALLLLLL DAY LONG!!! My husband gets to go to a job, talk to real adult people, see people in person, and the. When he wants he will go work out or go to a work happy hour, all while I sit at home and go insane from lack of any kind of adult to adult interaction. I finally broke down to him and told him that we BOTH wanted this baby, we BOTH knew what we were going to be up against, and while some days it's not "fun", he needs to come home after work and let me get a break! He asked me "can you not handle this?".... calmly I told him... "I obviously can handle this... I handled a 4 year old going to school, our baby in the hospital, work and a house for 4.5 months, then when our son came home, I handled all that goes on wth home care....the point of the matter is that I shouldn't HAVE to on my own...." I told him that if that is what he expects, I can just decided to have 0 expectations from him and go on and do this as a "single mom". He very quickly realized all that I do and stepped up! I also let him know that the lack of respect in that situation was making me resent him, and in turn was hurting our marriage. Kids are hard work, lets face it, moms are just "better" at it most of the time, but that doesn't mean that we don't need the love, support, and help to get through it! I'm here if you ever need to vent! 😘😘

@deafmama16 for real though.

@nicoclev girlllll you ain't wrong and he better catch up quick before you push them papers in front of his face.

@deafmama16 I tell him just about every day and so I've come to the point that I just don't talk to him. And then he'll try to rub my butt or something and I'm like, don't touch me. We've been through this before I told him what makes you think I wanna be intimate with you when you're a selfish jerk?

Oh, and Facebook. He'll stick his phone in my face to watch a dumbass video but I don't get to shower without worrying the baby's gonna cry bc he'll just let him cry so it's easier for me to just bring him in the bathroom with me

@nicoclev hopefully things work out for you and that he realizes what doing wrong. Did you ever tell him how you feel? What so damn important that he got to be on his phone constantly? He ain't no CEO

@deafmama16 yes!

@nicoclev he needs a good swift kick in the balls 😑

@deafmama16 yes and he has yet to realize that. I think his mom said something to him bc I'd been saying all day I was hungry and then he ate and didn't ask me if he could take the baby so I could eat and so I just didn't eat. Bc after that it was like oh I'll take the baby go take a hot bath and relax blah blah blah. Nah

Smh if he don't man up some one will take his place