Okay so I need opinions again ladies... Okay so my bfs sister invited me(and my girls of coarse) to…

@janeth25 I thought the same he hates her a lot. I already told her I'd go since my daughter loves her a lot she's super close to her.

I agree it's your bday, I wouldn't go. That's a day to spend with your family not in laws and random people. But that is just my opinion. Do they have kids together? The ex and your BF?

@mrs.c true and no

It is awkward but shouldn't be an issue because your SIL and her are friends. I think if she were to be there later on if your SIL has a baby shower and you go then just be a adult and be nice or don't say anything.

If your BF is close to his family and the ex comes around because of friendship. Unfortunately there is not much to do. Now if your SIL was bringing her around to be a B**** then that is a different story.

Have you talked to you SIL about his ex being around?

As for your bday, be honest and tell her. It's my bday and I want to spend it with my family. So we won't be able to make it after all. What I learned is you have to be forward(not rude) just firm.

From dealing with my SILS. Because I was not firm with them from the start the oldest acted like she was my hubby's wife and son's mom. Whole another story lol

@mrs.c me and her don't really talk anymore let's just say things for really bad and I no longer trust saying anything to her.. but I've always been nice I always keep my mouth shut to her (not his ex I've never met her). I don't think that talk though as friends he says he ignores her messages. His sister has done it to be a bitch before she would bring her around when I wasn't around...no i have no talked to my SIL about his ex being around she wouldn't care anyways since she's like sister with her

@adrianasmtz1994 I meant she comes around because of the friendship the ex has with your SIL.

It's sad when in laws do things like that, but hey it's not like it can effect your relationship and don't let it! Most people like that hate to see you guys grow as a couple.

Let her act like that, you just focus on you and your family. And as for the ex she invites her to her events that's fine, she has every right to. Maybe just be clear that you don't care if they are best friends or whatever that if you're not comfortable you and your family won't go. Remember your comfort level matters to.

I totally get it when it comes up,athe other side.

@mrs.c oooh okay I misunderstood sorry. Well yeah true but he really doesn't wanna see her at all which is good for me I don't wanna see her either nor near my kids.. But yeah she does have every right to invite her to her events. So far I don't think imma go then I can just put a little pool for my girls here at home again

@adrianasmtz1994 don't over think it, I do that all the time and it drives me crazy! If he does not want to be around her and obviously you don't. Don't waste your time girly. (: enjoy your bday not dealing with random people(: