There's a reason I talk to my SD's mom as much as I do, there's a reason I let her think I like her.…
There's a reason I talk to my SD's mom as much as I do, there's a reason I let her think I like her. I might be called 2 faced or backstabbing for it but I have a good reason. My SD has alot of problems, some are mental, some are emotional. Some of the problems she was born with, but most of them come from bad parenting. And because this woman thinks we're friends she tells me things. Like how she aloud her brother to abuse both her kids for 2yrs just so she could have a place to stay (both of the kids dad's would have found her a place to stay if they knew what was going on). She has told me that my SD has been getting her ass beat daily since she was 2 (helpful hint to get my 2yr old to sleep, beat her till she passes out). And yesterday when I went to pick her up she told me about an incident that happened over the weekend. She claims her and her husband was play fighting and my SD freaked out, crying, shaking, screaming don't hurt my mommy. She laughed it off saying she has know idea why she was acting like that. So on the way home I asked her about it. This little girl told me about how her mom and dad fight in their room, how they hit eachother, how her mom cries after and she comforts her mom. How her mom has bruises alot. And then both them tell my SD that what she saw wasn't true, that she's wrong they weren't hitting eachother. This explains alot about my SD. She doesn't understand how to tell the truth, she thinks the best way to solve a problem is violence, and she's afraid to talk. She is going to a specialist tomorrow to find out what's going on with her and now we have alot to go on. Sorry for the long post, I don't have many people to talk to.
cantdeletebutimgone·
Good morning dear. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. That poor girl needs you so much aka stability and love. I really hope she finds the help she needs. Is there anything you can do to get her to stay with you guys more often and less time away from her mother?
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@mommiesaremagical14 we have custody of her now. Her mom gets here on the weekends. Since she's been with us her behaviour has improved alot. When she goes to the therapist we will have everything documented by her. She works with CPS alot with cases like this.
cantdeletebutimgone·
@tiredmom How old is she, 8?
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@mommiesaremagical14 she'll 9 in a few days.
cantdeletebutimgone·
Does her mom have legal (court documented visitation?
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@mommiesaremagical14 we don't have court ordered custody. She just gave her to us.
cantdeletebutimgone·
@tiredmom Ok, does your SD ever say she doesn't want to go to her mom's? I think she's old enough to make that choice. My sister had sole custody of her boys and if they didn't want to go visit him she didn't force them. I know it's different because she had sole custody but even without and court orders I don't think she has to go if she doesn't want to.
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@mommiesaremagical14 no she always wants to go. She gets told what she sees happening isn't really happening, or that she's lying. She gets told that the reason she gets her ass beat is because she's bad and she deserves it. And she believes it.
⚓️Kaamilah⚓️·
Мама подростка, беременна (22 нед.)
I wouldn't even let her over her mothers house. I wouldn't call it two faced , your doing what you need to do to possibly save that little girl. That's a shame the mess she has been through.
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@krenee1120 that's why we're getting everything documented. We can't legally keep her from her mom yet. We don't have legal custody either. Her mom just gave her to us to "fix" and give back.
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@krenee1120 we're having a hard time getting her to open up, her mom can always say we're lying but if she tells us or her therapist we can us it.
Tiffany·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (39 нед.)
She's lucky to have you in her life... sounds like you are doing the right thing... play nice with the mom, that child deserves a better life than what she's been given!
⚓️Kaamilah⚓️·
Мама подростка, беременна (22 нед.)
@tiredmom, ohh okay hopefully y'all can get legal soon . But yea had to get my nephew and niece from their mom before I know all the hoops you have to jump through.