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Long rant for a long ass day....My 11 year old son doesn't want go with his dad as much as he does anymore and let's…

Long rant for a long ass day....My 11 year old son doesn't want go with his dad as much as he does anymore and let's just say what could have been a simple conversation, turned to a complete mess. God knows what's to come. I refuse to feel the pain of sending him somewhere he doesn't want to be. His dad is a good parent but impossible to talk to. I know my son is well taken care of over there and they love him dearly. He also has two sisters at his dads and they are close as well. But my son is determined to spend more time with me and our family. I won't ever ignore my children's feelings! No matter who it hurts! When my children open up to me, it's my job as a mother to listen and fix the problem. I would do anything for my babies... point blank! As far as custody goes, we went through a lawyer 8 years ago and came to an agreement that I get him 4 nights and he gets him 3 nights a week. So almost half and half. He pays $170 monthly for child support (and always complains about it) He seems to think because we legally made an agreement in 2009 that it can never be changed but it can. I'm new to all this so if anyone has any legal advice or tips, it would be greatly appreciated.

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feemommyof3

FeliciaМама троих детей

@wafflez I believe the the age here is 14... We r in New Mexico. It's a tough situation now because his dad made it about himself and starting crying to my son. And now my son is on a huge guilt trip because he hurt his dads feeling. I told him it's not about him, it's about our son and his feelings. I do appreciate that his father cares so much that he would cry and put up a fight to see him enough but what about how he feels? Since he was a baby we had this agreement and I basically made my son go because he was too young to choose but now that he can express himself, it's hard as a mother to just say, "you have to go" I dont think his dad wants to involve courts because he is scared they will higher child support. I told him he doesn't even have to pay me, I just want my son to be happy and comfortable where he is. But your right I hope he chooses to listen to my son and go off of that. Thanks girl. Sorry for rambling... Lol when it comes to ur kids we get feisty!

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wafflez

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At a certain age the kid can choose but it depends on state also i hope that maybe his dad would be understanding an maybe hear his son out an just not drag it threw court but usually thats never the case so if your son says to the attorney what he said to you an your lucky enough to be in a state that allows the kid to make a choice in his parental rights an hes at the age

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