This is the next excuse I got as to why my family doesn't visit. Looks like we won't be going down…

Just because you move doesn't mean your responsible for visiting everyone and traveling back and forth. I am the only one that moved away but my family plans and we make it happen. Only people that have a problem coming are the people that are an hour away. Which is silly to me. I understand where your coming from.

Thank you @beebaby I'm glad you understand!! All 3 of my sisters have kicked me out of their homes at least one point in my life and it's sad. I tried to build a relationship back with each one but I wanted my own life, so I chose to move to PA. I've been up here almost 2 years and they didn't come to my wedding or my daughters first birthday party. They have time to plan a trip, they just never do. I'm not bending over backwards for them anymore.

Crazy enough I doesn't take much. Maybe a full tank of gas. I visit when I can but I used to be the one taking 9 to 10 trips. I hate driving. I hate driving with kids for hours. Now I have 2 that need to use the restroom and one that hates her carseat. It's hell. All my sister's kids are older. So they all have been coming to see me and now it's my turn. I like that system but we are 3 plus hours away depending on where each on lives. But we compromise

Our drive is over 10 hours one way when we go and we have made so many trips since I've lived up here. They haven't. My daughter hates those long car rides and I don't blame her. With all the stops along the way it's always a 12+ hour trip for us. @beebaby those comments just set me off tonight. I'm tired of going to them and them giving no kind of effort in return.

My while family lives maybe 4 or 5 hour away and always expect me to come back there. And try to make me feel like shit cause I moved in with my boyfriend now husband. I don't talk to any of them now cause they were basically telling me I made a mistake by not moving with my mom and how if I did I would have a better life. I don't need to hand to count how many times they have called me or came to see me. Shit when I was pregnant my mom came to see me 2 and couldn't even stay another day to see her grandson on an ultrasound. Show how important I am. Shits real clear to me now.

Exactly!!! I was growing tired of seeing how my family was treating me so the last time we visited was for Christmas and my daughter was 6 months old. If it wasn't for us visiting, the vast majority of my family would have never met my daughter yet. It's just sad that I call them family and they treat us like this. My daughter won't know who they are, so in the end it'll hurt them a whole lot more than it'll hurt us @babyveach

I agree

@jessicarose0602 I agree. When my son was born my mom was at the hospital but ended up starting shit with my husband while I was in the recovery room after my c section trying to get feeling back in my legs. Literally not even 5 minutes after my husband came back in the room room pissed and told me what happened. She never got to meet my son. That didn't hurt me any. She always has to have drama around her then my family tries making me feel like shit for not asking her to come back like I'm sorry this isn't about her. It's about my son my husband and myself. No one else.

My sister lives an hour away and only used to come down when her kids had doctors appointments or when she wanted to *excuse my French * get dicked down . She skipped jjs first birthday because she took her kids on vacation with her best friend/ baby daddy's sister in law . I don't have a car and we were expected to take a 2+ hour bus ride with jj as a baby and now toddler with his stroller,car seat and weekend bags. We barely text and she's so against me being with my husband saying he was only with me for his papers and thought i was nuts because I had jj with him and got married and I'm crazy because I want another baby but this was the age gap she had with her 2 boys ,but I can't choose to have another baby. Like I get it we live with my mom but if we left my sisters would be screwed they wouldn't want to pay full rent or clean the house or feed my disabled mom who has a history of falling and hitting her head. You sound a lot like me