So my relationship with my mother is pretty strained but I'm supposed to be going to a wedding with my husband this Sunday and I asked my mom if she could come to my house and babysit. She said yes so that was all great. The next day she text me and said that she was going to bring my nephew with her which I was iffy about but okay you know my older kids can play with him while she's taking care of the baby no problem. Then today I text her to see if she was still available tomorrow and she said yes she's going to bring my stepdad with her too and for some reason that bothered me. I mean I was already getting super nervous about leaving the baby anyways and now her saying that she's bringing two extra people I just feel like that's a lot of people in the house just to come babysit. And honestly I don't trust my step dad to hold my baby he's never had tiny babies around except for when our kids were babies but he wasn't very good at holding them then either. I don't know I just don't really know how to tell her I don't want him here without being rude. Especially because when my mother and I's relationship was at its worst he was the one reaching out to me and at least trying to keep in contact. He's a really nice guy I just don't trust him with the little babies so now I'm even more nervous to leave my baby than I was before. I don't know what to do i damn near just want to say fuck it and not go except I do really want to go and plus this is a fancy wedding that you had to like pick your dinner for and everything so they would probably be mad if they paid for us and we didn't show up.