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My baby daddy doesn't know if hes ready to be a father. Any advice? Im not keen on being a single mom but i dont really want to give him an ultimatum either. Please only kind words.
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@ib.crazyskittles18 okay but it's not about custody. Do you love each other? Do you both care about this baby? Do you want to be there for this baby and each other? There are bigger things that matter than who gets to keep the baby. This child is going to take your time, your sleep, every ounce of energy your body holds. You have to both be willing to hold each other up when you need it because you WILL need it. And if all he can say is "I don't know" you have to get prepared to raise this baby alone. And if that's what you want to do and if you think you can do it on your own I think most moms would tell you to go for it. Being a happy single mom is better than being an unhappy mom with a boyfriend that doesn't care or that has no desire to be part of the family.
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@ib.crazyskittles18 okay but it's not about custody. Do you love each other? Do you both care about this baby? Do you want to be there for this baby and each other? There are bigger things that matter than who gets to keep the baby. This child is going to take your time, your sleep, every ounce of energy your body holds. You have to both be willing to hold each other up when you need it because you WILL need it. And if all he can say is "I don't know" you have to get prepared to raise this baby alone. And if that's what you want to do and if you think you can do it on your own I think most moms would tell you to go for it. Being a happy single mom is better than being an unhappy mom with a boyfriend that doesn't care or that has no desire to be part of the family.
@mommy1991 i try to talk to him about custody and stuff and he just says idk
Comunication. You HAVE to talk in order for his to survive. It's so important to explain how you feel. No matter how mushy and corny it sounds. You have to let him know that you're scared that he's not in this with you. You might be surprised at what he says. He might not be much of a feelings kind of guy but if you get emotional he might be more comforting than you think.
@ib.crazyskittles18, I found out at 6 weeks and I'll be 13 on Friday! About two weeks ago he finally started to wanna talk about it and started to get excited! He's still kinda stubborn and only likes openly talking about it with me as of right now but once you guys tell people and see how excited everyone is for you he will get excited too!
@lex_6 how much time did it take him to open up?
It's still very new to him and to you! Just give him some time to think about it and everything it comes with and when he's ready to talk about it he will! At first my boyfriend didn't want to talk about the baby (we have a very healthy happy relationship, we're already planning to get married) he was just kinda in shock and needed time to process it!
@ib.crazyskittles18, Firs of all this baby is yours, and if he is no ready yet... this is his choice. But I think when man love woman, he is never leave her in this situation...
@virakhilia i try talk to him about custody and stuff and just says idk
Now is too late thinking if he ready or not))) He will be a father) I think when he will see a baby, he will stop doubt)