My mom never let him see us if he was high, if she took us to visit him he had to have been clean for a month before, usually right after getting out of jail. She was honest about that too, if he was high and we had to leave she would leave it at that and we never once met any of his friends. I guess it also depends how far into the drug world your sons father is because mine is just a pathetic Meth addict going no where in life except jail or a shallow grave. I hope everything works out and that he can understand when he's older :)

@annivan.ca, wow I wish I could say some thing so easy like that but ... I try to be the most reasonable to him without lies . But god will help me through this and one day he'll see why he's never called just hope it don't hurt too bad

@babyboy1117, thank you !! I like that open access of communication but that environment isn't safe to him . Smh as a mother I just want what's best for him . & like I said the phone is always their it never rings for him and the few times it did it was him grandma from his dads side 2 x in 4years .. never his father

Ive never told him nothing bad cuz i dont want to break him not until he fuigure it out my ex is just not avalible for him but yet one day my son will see his father is a pc of nothing rather take care of 3 that is not his but god is big you just have to be the bigger person. Let your son feel he has a father but he is buzy because as small as he is he will remember alot hope this helps

I told my first son his dad is a pilot thats why he never call cuz he is buzy in the sky and your not allowed a ☎ up there

And if you ever would like to ask any other more specific questions you can message me, always.

I don't really know what you could do with such a young kid, but my mom was always honest with me after I started catching on around age 6, I didn't know specifically what my dad was up to yet, I just knew he wasn't there. She always kept the line of communication open, if I wanted to talk to my dad she would reach out to him and if he didn't respond she would let me know, but she never denied me access to him and as I've gotten older I've been able to talk to him about things and I understand a lot better now why he chose Meth over me and my little sister, so I would just recommend being as honest as possible and keeping the lines of communication open as best you can and never try to force him to feel any type of way about his dad, it really helped me cope and I'm grateful she did it that way.