Beyond annoyed. My SO has two older brothers aged 26 and 28 (grown men). I understand their background and the situation life has brought them to be in and I love them and will always offer support BUT they depend on my SO for EVERYTHING. Rides to work, money for this, money for that, hang out with me here, hang out with me there. My SO is too kind and loves them too much to even realize how intrusive they are and bringing it up is such a touchy subject with him. (They both recently returned home after a decent amount of time in jail). But now we live on our own and have a baby on the way and we're becoming our own family as well as adjusting to a more adult world. I know that they're important to him, but I feel like they need to be able to support themselves, especially when our baby is here. Just today, he spent all day with them, loaned his brother $400, spent more money to go out to the movies with them, and is now asking me if they can sleep over because they have no where to go tonight. Which has happened two times this week. I just want some privacy in my own home because these Braxton Hicks are kicking my ass and I'm running to the bathroom every 20 mins. I'm ripping my hair out as a 21 year old busting my ass to have my life together for my child while my partner is busy taking care of two grown men who need to learn how to take care of themselves. Am I justified in being frustrated? It's so hard because they are family and I am trying to be as selfless as possible.... but this is getting under my skin.
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I went through that for years. It's finally "normal" here. My brother in law would sleep on my couch for 2 weeks at a time and even go on dates with us. We went camping once and my husband invited his brother. There went our alone time. He was seriously up our butts. Every time we were alone he'd show up. If we went on a date he'd invite himself. He would be sitting on our doorstep when we got home waiting on us because he didn't have a car at the time but he'd have his co workers drop him off at my house instead of taking him home. Then we had to figure out how to get him home or let him stay all night. I got so sick of it. I finally told my hubby he has to go. He got mad at me because it's his brother and I said either he goes or you both go. It took some fighting and arguing but he finally understood that they couldn't be connected at the hip anymore. My BIL finally has respect for me.
They r grown,they can go to a shelter,if ur not happy then ur baby is not happy,have to be straight up say this is brothering u before ur baby comes bc later it will just stress u out and that not good for ur baby and u need to worry about ur baby and not nobody else feeding off of y'all.
A mom know what is best for their kid,kid comes first,and if they don't get then their being selfish them selfs.
I'd tell them to kick the dirt!!! You only worry about you and your man with your baby!!!
I'm going through the same thing right now! My BIL is 24 years old. He moved in with us I think 4 months into our marriage. after he had gotten out of jail. (we've been married for 2 years already) so my husband & I didn't have much privacy. Still don't. Which is kind of annoying & I'm so over it. He has 2 other sisters & a mom. Which i don't understand why he didn't just move in with them? BTW: my husband didn't even tell me or talk to me about him moving in. I didn't even get to input into this. He just moved in. Which I'm waiting for the day he MOVES OUT! which is not until OCT because that's when he gets married, but I hope he moves out sooner than that & gets his own apartment.
I can't stand him living with us because for 1. he doesn't clean up after himself. He uses my kitchen & leaves it dirty. 2. he's always so LOUD & obnoxious. don't know how I'm gonna handle that when they baby comes in 2 months!