I really need some advice here. On Friday I meet up with my ex husband to sign divorce paperwork,…

If i was you i would decide to breastfeed.... but i do have a friend that is in your situation and the kids go with him on the holidays and summer vacation...

@embracemthrhd2, I am going too. My best friend is being negative and saying that I probably won't be able too and stuff. Is her ex in the military as well, or.?

Yeah her ex was when they first got divorced. They li e in 2 different states. And he has to pay for the plane tickets.

@embracemthrhd2, did he ever get in trouble? My ex has a background, especially with drinking. I don't trust him. He has family that lives in Israel, New York, New Jersey that he plans on going to visit and I feel like he will take off with her and with 50/50, I'll be screwed..

Im not sure

@embracemthrhd2, I'm just at a complete loss here because I don't want her to go without her dad but I don't trust him at all.

You have to remember at some point you did and unless you have a lagit reason and proof why you feel your child wont be safe with him then the judge will remind you of this as well. They support troops. And sometimes we as mothers have to let the dad prove himself a good dad. Some men totally suck in relationships but are awesome dads. It might hurt to think about it but sometimes its better to prepare the worst and expext the best.

If he gets 50/50 custody they'll probably let him live outside the barracks to take care of his kid. But then again if you breastfeed they won't give him custody because your baby will be depending on you .

@jaie16, he refuses to live off base and refuses to get his license.

@caityyy_lynnn, yea but they'll give him housing on base.

@embracemthrhd2, I already gave my reason on why I don't trust me. He can leave to Israel or New York or New Jersey with my child and I'll be screwed if he has 50/50. He got arrested for driving without a license and using someone else's car and slept with someone else wife while being drunk..

@jaie16, no. The military actually refuses to give housing for a kid. Unless you have a spouse, they won't. A friend of mine went through this and because he wasn't married, he couldn't get housing.

@caityyy_lynnn, I guess it depends on what branch because the marines will give you housing for your kid. Well atleast they did with my husband friend.

He just needed a reliable care taker while he was at work.

@jaie16, he's in the army and stationed at Fort Irwin in California. They don't care unless you're married. He also can't do anything for her with no license. I told him I wanted primary custody and that none of his rights would be taken from him but he refuses and wants 50/50, and it's because his mom is talking to him and telling him what to do. I honestly feel like if he has 50/50, he's going to take off with her and put her in an unsafe environment because he plans on moving in with his dad who smokes weed all the time inside the house..

Nope I'll crush his little dreams because he's just being selfish & his fam probably just on his neck about it to be petty

@jaie16, I know it's seems wrong of me, but I've given my reasons and he only wants to be present when it's convenient for him.. he only cares when he wants too.. he refused to help me with anything and when I did ask after he told me I could ask him for anything, would get nasty with me and give me an attitude.. he really doesn't know anything about babies and scares me that if he has her at any point and time and she needs to go to the emergency room or anything, he can't take her..

@jaie16, his family is worried that I'm going to be a bitch and take her away from him and his family and that's not the case. They haven't cared the entire time I've been pregnant and it irritates me..

@caityyy_lynnn, I mean not wrong if you because you know him & know what he'll be capable of. So I don't blame you. You just have to be sure your kid is SAFE & his fam will be on his side of course but they'll just wanna be petty

@jaie16, if he is alone with her, I don't feel she will be safe. He knows all the right things to say because his mom and dad divorced and she up and left with him and took him away from his dad, as he says. His mom knows what to do and he's close with her. I can't trust him.

Yup I wouldn't . 🤷🏽‍♀️ I'll breastfeed my kid until I can't no more. Because I wouldn't trust them 😒

But most likely you're good. You'll have custody because he can't take care of her on his own

Oh yeah duh, sorry about that... but both parents have to aprove a pass port for the child so he wont be able to take her to Israel... but the other states just make sure there is a clause included... which may also mean you cant take the child out of state as well.

@embracemthrhd2, he plans on moving to Colorado, he won't take that away. Everything is explained in the above comments more on why I don't want him having 50/50. I'd allow him visitation but not 50/50

@jaie16, I plan on it but I'm just truly freaking out because I know he's going to try everything he can. And little would I know if he tries to get full custody of her.. she's not even born yet and I have to worry like she's going to be born tomorrow.