Sometimes I miss going out like I used to before becoming a mother. I miss getting ready and going out with my baby's dad (not my bf or anything) and just having his attention. Not that it's his attention in particular that I miss but just that I even had anyone's attention in the first place. The fact that he would ask me to go out in the first place because it meant something to me that he actually wanted to go out with me somewhere and spend time with me and be seen with me. But now it's changed. He doesn't ever ask me to hang out with him anymore or go anywhere. I don't thing I could bring myself to actually go out without my daughter , but I wish he would at least think about inviting our daughter and I somewhere we can all go to together. I need to go out too, i haven't gone out since I found out I was pregnant (5 weeks). And honestly I need to get out of the house just to experience life outside my home. I honestly don't really have friends because my dumb self left all the friends I did have for him. And now when I do go over to his place so he can see her on the weekend (he lives with his parents, so they get to see her too) he leaves to hang out with other people. He'd rather be with others than his daughter. It hurts to see his preference over her. And what really kills me is when his mother tells him "take xochilt with you " I feel awful when I hear that. He replies by saying "no she can't leave the baby ever " that's his excuse for never inviting me anywhere. I don't know if I'm even making sense. I just really wanted to get that off my mind 😢
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Oh Xochilt :( don't feel that way, please let me
know when you're free so we can go out.
@sk216, thanks your baby girl is so cute!! Oh wow they are ! How funny :D yes they are ;)
No problem :) go get your nails done and relax! Your daughter is beautiful by the way. Our daughter's are exactly 1 year and 3 days apart. February babies are the best
@sk216, thanks you're right. You helped me get my mind straight when I comes to this I really appreciate it! Hopefully I can make the time to go out even if it's by myself :)
There's no need to feel guilty but it's natural to feel that way. Its not like you constantly leave the baby with someone else. A couple hours a week to yourself is perfectly acceptable. You need to mentally be okay so that you can take care of the baby. Give yourself some much needed time to breathe
@sk216, thank you for taking the time to read it all. And thank you for saying it's okay to feel that way. Thinking about going out without my baby makes me feel guilty and honesty sad. Just thinking about it makes me tear up 😩 I trust my parents with my baby But feel like why should go out when I could spending time with my baby yet I feel like I need to go out just to get out.
I know how you feel. It's super tough. For awhile I felt that way. Don't feel bad, it's really hard adjusting to the mom life because it's nothing like you've ever had before. It's overwhelming and sometimes you just need a break and THAT'S OKAY. It was super hard for me because I was so use to going everywhere with my boyfriend and doing everything together but that all changed after the baby was born. We couldn't just run to the store real quick anymore, we couldn't go hang out with our friends like we use to, we couldn't even go to bed together like we use to. It took time but we eventually settled into parenthood. We rarely go out but when we do it feels great. You need to Find someone you trust to watch the baby and go out even if it is just for a couple hours. It will help. You'll feel better. You deserve a break too.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
I have no friends! ?
I have no actual proper friends! I never go on nights out cos I don't have friends to go with! It doesn't usually bother me but it's starting too! My oh is busy helping his friend move today and then tonight he's out at the boxing with his mates and out after! Rhys is at his dads so it's just me and Isabella! ??
Prayers needed please
My husband is on his way to his mothers house, and he has no idea when he gets there that he is going to find out his little brother killed himself thismorning.
Who else has financial issues within their relationship?? Or am I just lucky 🙄🙄
Not sure if I'm being just mean or what. But my SO used $160 from me this morning. I gave him my bank card because he needed $60 to get material for work. His boss was going to give it back to him at the end of the day. So instead of $60 he took out $160. Which I was a little pissed. (One of the reasons I just can't let him use my card. I have to go get the money from the atm myself if I'm giving it to him) then, to...
Soooooo jeb has been i guess clingy. For the last 3-4 days he has always tried to crawl to me or crawl out his room to me. Or he is in his walker and rolls over to me.
He is now in his room crying at the door because he cant get out to get to me.
He will be 1yr in a few weeks. Is this a leap thing or what???
#boymom
#ftm
@ingridm89, it's so hard Ingrid :( thank you ❤️