I have a question that for some of you ladies may hit a sore spot, it's a sore spot for me as well. If you have a kid(s)…

Yea unfortunately some women are spiteful for no reason

@dee_02dee Thank you and we will lol. We drive each other nuts sometimes but we are soulmates. How have you been??

@thewilliamsfamily I wish I could say the same for my boys. Sad part of it is my oldest remembers things and he is torn because he loves his father but also knows he was abusive. I try not to speak negatively about him but it is inevitable sometimes.

@thewilliamsfamily that's so sad. But your husband is a true blessing for you and your older kids to be their father. They see that which is why they call him daddy. If their "father" doesn't want to step up it's on him, his loss. He is missing out on great kids.

@firsttimemommy84 I can't understand why men mess up and then "try" once the damage is done. You are a good mom protecting your baby. I hope he gets his life straight, maybe one day if he does you will feel it is safe enough for the baby to meet him but until then he is shit out of luck.

My baby daddy had a gut feeling that I was pregnant before I left him but wasn't for sure and he tried to contact me back in January when I was 8 months pregnant but didn't call him back and changed my number and about a month ago he called my sister to try and get a hold of me but she didn't answer to him either. @dee_02dee

Yes he is. I have more support from my family then I would ever get from his dad's family @dee_02dee

@firsttimemommy84 I can understand you don't want to expose your baby to that. Keep your baby safe girl, I am not judging. I'm sorry that happened to you but everything happens for a reason. And your baby is so much safer this way.

And plus his whole family has been down the same road so none of them know about my son @dee_02dee

I have a baby boy from a previous relationship and my baby daddy doesn't even know he has a baby boy with me because right before I left him he was cheating on me and relapsed on drugs so it's better my son doesn't know his dad @dee_02dee

@dee_02dee, yes sometimes we have issues with his ex but nothing big really. My kids in the other hand tho aren't aloud to spend the night with their dad. Only see him for a couple hours

@batsymommy that's awesome. I wish it could be like that for everyone. You have no idea how good you have it. It's a blessing.

My so and me have kids with previous ex and he is aloud to see his and mine are aloud to see their dad

@laciemarie well I ask because yes like in your situation you had reason to keep the baby from him. Just as I do with the father of my kids. He was abusive not only to me but to them as well. @skysmommy04 I agree. And the reason I ask is because my fiancé has a son whose mother always gives lame excuses on why he can't come over to spend time with us. Like yesterday, I asked my stepson if he wanted to come over and he said that his mother said no......because SHE wasn't feeling well. Seriously, what does that have to do with him coming over when we were going to pick him up? He is 11yrs old. It's not like she has to change his diaper and get his diaper bag ready. It's upsetting to me. @mommylovescoraline you are always so positive and I am so glad you two already have an agreement. Yet something tells me you two will stay happy together ❤

I don't have a kid from a previous relationship but if anything happened between hubby and I, I would. I always promised that if we had kids and anything happened ghee could have her and I'd come visit. We'd work it out 😊😊

I believe the kids have nothing to do with your differences unless he wasn't a father to them. If they have a bond absolutely if not I wouldn't care a bit

When my husband and i split for 2 weeks last year i only aloud him to see my son with supervision because he was drinking achol a lot like all day, and he threaghtend to take my son away from. (He never came saw him till we got back together after he stopped drinking all damn day)