Hey ladies, I'm new here and haven't posted on yet but I'm having a hard time tonight an just need…

Just explain to him that you don't want her in there because y'all aren't that close. If he gets mad then oh well. That's YOUR decision on who you want in there, not his.

I would just tell him when it is and that you still dont want her in there and tell the nurse and they will keep her out and have the baby stress free if it is with him by your side or not. He has been in and out any ways since you got pregnant so you will be able to have her with out him but it would be nice to have him i know you got this girl you are strong and how ever it turns out just know you at lestvhave that little girl with you no matter what happens. Hopefully you got something useful out of me and i am sorry if you didnt.

@lillynellasmom, awe yes thank you!! I know security will respect my wishes but I just wish it came from him because I know once his mom gets to the hospital she gon be freaking out that she can't go in and blowing his phone up and if I can get there before her that way I don't even have to see her that's why I don't want to tell him the time it's just sad that it's all these problems already cuz he can't be a man an respect me and stand up to his mother

If you really don't want her in there but don't want to be the bad guy tell the nurses that you don't want anybody in there...they really don't mind being the bad guys. And tell your bf it's personal and just want it to be you and him.

I feel you on that my husband is a big mamas boy and she wanted to be in the room and i was like hell no i barely wanted my husband in there lol I also did not care to be rude and say what i was feeling but my husband mad me be the bitch. But he is finally coming around about hom saying no to his mom and taking my side it only took after having our first child and her trying to tell him how to raise her to tell her no and that we got this and that when i end up feeling bad for her because we were in a restaurant when he raised his voice at her and people turn around.

@lillynellasmom, Yessss thank you lol that's what I told him like we only been dating not even a year yet I barley want him in there lol but he doesn't get it he's very sheltered lol it just sucks I hope he realizes before it's too late because I won't have this nonsense around my daughter and sometimes it takes the man to stand up to his mother and put her in her place like I'm sorry but it's not my place to stand up to her but I will stand up for me and my daughter idc whos feelings I hurt

@jcbaby, ya he just doesn't get it an my mother will be in there because she's the only one who been here through it allllllll so he gets mad about that and I told him it's my say so but I'm just very opinionated and speak my mind and i should have handled the situation a lot different an just told him ok but it's something that I've told him for the whole pregnancy that I don't want her in there and for him to battle me on it so hard it's just a shitty feeling and his mother will do whatever she has to do to make her way in so it scares me I already made a list of visitors because I don't want anyone for the first 24hrs

@mjb3493 you are right! Same thing to me if I am in labor. I will tell nurse some family name only. I don't want drama... I want Peace and happy... He needs to RESPECT YOUR WISH.

@lovegod90, yes absolutely!! Make your list girl!! I've got mine ready lol because I don't want visitor for the first 24 hrs bc I don't want anyone to see me all yucky and in the most vonurable state I've ever been in it's my first child too so I don't even know what to expect! I don't want some woman that I only seen a handful of times to be in my delivery room so she can judge me after words or have her opinion when she doesn't even know me

@taebriahnsmom, @taebriahnsmom, yeah I tried that!! Been tellin him since day one, but I have to be the bad guy cuz he can't just be a man, respect me and stand up to her!! It just makes me so sad and mad I know that what I say goes at the hospital no matter what but I just hate that we have to fight over it

@mjb3493 Amen!!! I can't blame you.... Drama make u worst in labor. It is not healthy for you and your new baby.... Unhappy is not WORTH. He needs to respect you. He need GROW UP, REAL MAN. NOT BOY! My ex bf is so Boy and always boy mama! He was 41.. I cut him off out of my life. I wish man respect woman first.... ( so Sad )

@lovegod90, yes!! I need it to be peaceful! I feel like I've been so stressed over him my whole pregnancy!! But good for you!! it's sad that men can't be men anymore!! I wish I was having a boy because he would know how to treat a woman with respect lol 😂

@mjb3493 Laughing .... I bet if it is a BOY. I bet he will protect you over your boyfriend and his mother.... Rare daughter protect you too.. Please don't get STRESS... just ignore his words and his mother's words..... Be strong. Remember that many women are NO LONGER close with his mother.. Their mother CAN'T CONTROL HIS WOMAN. The devil works! The devil can't Destroy your Joy over his mother ✊🙏

@mjb3493 Simply tell him that you arent going on a dinner date... youre having a BABY. YOU are having that little girl, its solely up to you who SHOULD and should NOT be in your delivery room at what will be a critical time, a very important time, and most of all a very private and cherished moment of your life. He's treating this as if its up to him, or as if its not a big deal. If my husband where to have ever suggested his mother be in my delivery room i would have taken it as a joke. I dont even like to change my clothes around my friends, what in the world could make him think youd be okay with having his mother there.. hes just being pressured by her and thinking of himself but he doesnt understand the fact that you and him are most important in that moment, thats the best moment... when you first meet her. Its not a moment to be shared with anyone other than yourselves and whoever you feel you are comfortable with. There is no need. Its about your privacy, your moment. Its the best moment. She can see the baby afterwards, when the baby is all cleaned up, fed, and rested.. and when you are rested. That is the time for her to see the baby. She shoiuld be respectful of that. Some people dont feel the same about it though.. some dont care whos in there. Me, i do. Its the most special and most vulnerable moment, and i wouldnt want anyone in there having gone through the experience, other than me and my husband 💯💯

@simplyshantell, yes yes yes amen girl everything you said was spot on!!!! He's just treating it like it's no big deal he's just a child in a 30 yr old body thanks to his mother. Lol but really though she needs to respect me and she is pressuring him BIG time cuz we have had this conversation quite a few times an he was okay with it until the other day he finally told her she couldn't be in the room and ever since then it's been this fight because one of my friends told him it can only be two ppl in the delivery room so that's what he told her and then he found out that you can have more then 2 ppl anyways i just feel very disrespected it's my body and my vonurability an I don't want her judging me after the fact or seeing me in that state of mind cuz she's super two face will tell me she loves me so much to my face but can't txt me to see how I'm doing or ask me to dinner or anything so ya lol thank you for reassuring me of my feelings and I'm glad to know I'm not the only one to feel the same way on this situation it's a HUGE deal my first child so as it gets closer to my induction date the scarier it gets lol

And do you know @simplyshantell, I haven't herd from him since 😭😭😭 which it's his loss but it's still like really dude come on now so he probably won't be in the room at all now....

@mjb3493 Hun, if he doesnt want to be there because of it (which i know no matter what will hurt, because hes the father of your baby) it will be him who will suffer ultimately, and TRUST me he will regret it. Thing is though, I truly just dont think he understands the gravity of the situation. Youre going to be naked from the waist down pushing out a baby (if everything goes as planned). Youll tear, or possibly even have to have an episiotomy. Its not a pretty scene. Some women dont even want their husbands in there because they dont want them to see that... how could HE get angry at YOU about the fact that you dont want HIS mother in there? Shes not your mother, and its not HIS body. Its yours. SHE, if she was worth a dime, shed be resperctful of your decision. Shed leave it at that, and say that its okay and not pressure her son, which is whats causing this drama and for him to act irrationally because he isnt speaking to you. I can only imagine the day where my son has a baby in the future and his wife tells me i cant be in the room, hell, i would never even impose. I, as a mother in law would never ASK to be in the delivery room. In fact, its something that unless youre invited by the mother of the baby, you dont broach the subject. People cant just "invite" themselves to your delivery room.. it has to be you who invites, not him.. she should know that. She knows shes being disrespectful, she just doesnt give a damn. Causing an arguement and tension in a relationship shortly before induction... Shes a real case work.. you need to put her in her place now and explain to her if it comes down to that and he doesnt come around or else i see you struggling with her once the baby is here. If she wants any chance at redeemning herself she needs to apologize for the drama and the uneccesary tension shes created out of a situatuon meant to be life altering, happy, exciting. Instead, youre stressed out, sad, frustrated. Do you think if she gave a shit about you or your baby shed want to make you feel this way? Then why in the hell should you be okay with her being there... this very turmoil in itself is one of the reasons you dont want her there. How hes acting because of her shows how much of an influence and grab she has on him. Tell him to put his big boy pants on and gear up if he wants to be a father to that baby, because if he doesnt then you dont have the time of day to waste on him and if hes not okay with your choice (although trust me, youre completely right about this) then he can sit at home with his mother and they can both be angry at you for disrepecting you together... call it bonding if you will. But the second he realizes what an ass he is, he isnt allowed to come crawling back. F*** that. You want him there, its his loss if he gives into the pressure of a woman who doesnt respect your choices. If she were my MIL, shed be lucky to see the baby the next day given how hes acting because of her sorry influence. Shes probably enjoying this... b****. Lol. He will come around

DONT give in!!! Youre completely right, dont let her mess this memory up for you. It isnt worth it. He will realize it to. Stick to your guns 💪💪