Soooo happy you made this post because I was starting to feel guilty for feeling disconnected. I didn't get to latch them or do skin to skin when they were first born. They were rushed to nicu. I barely go to bond with them.

Some babies are just whiny. Mine is starting to sleep 8+ hours and cry less and smile more and almost giggle like. So I'm like "omg my kid is an angel he's perfect" (he is) but before I was telling everyone "he's such a fussy baby" I like life more now that I'm sleeping lol. He went to bed last night around 8:30 and didn't wake up til 4. It's a beautiful thing and it will happen to you my friend!

@shellbell0391, YES!!!!! Sometimes I'm just like "omg for real?! You are such a whiny spoiled baby!!" Then of course I feel guilty lol

My kid cries for absolutely no reason sometimes I swear he juSt likes the sound of his whining and I'm just like why the F Are you crying again broooo

It's ok I feel ya believe me

@shellbell0391, It's like you know me lol. That's essentially how I feel more often than I care to admit.

Yes once he starts sleeping and smiling and cooing more you're just gonna fall right in love. It's ok to want a break from him. It's ok to feel tired and annoyed that you're not getting any sleep. It's ok to be like MAN YOURE UP AGAIN?!!!! Apparently women cry all day long when they have to drop their kids off at daycare for the first time. I didn't lol. I cried a little in the morning but that was really it. It gets easier when your baby starts to do more than eat, sleep, poop, pee, and cry. I promise!!

Of course doll! Message me if you ever need to talk! :)

I didn't want to admit it at the time, but it took me about 2-3 weeks. My daughter was jaundiced for the first 2 weeks, so I mostly felt stress and exhaustion. I felt such a strong bond after we overcame that hurdle.

Thank you @luceromommy, thats a huge weight off.

It took me about a week and a half. I was so hormonal, exhausted, and in pain until then!

I felt more connected w my first than my second right away. Don't feel bad. So much pressure to be what society considers a mom. You love the baby? You take care of babies needs your a mom. She's two months now and it took her to give me a smile and really connect w me as I moved around for me to truly feel it. I used to be able to take her to her sitters and be like yes, quiet! (Yes I know I sound like a bitch) but now I do it and rush so I can pick her up. Don't ever feel bad as long as you're taking care of baby. If it gets worse then you tell the dr :) the fact that you're asking makes you a wonderful momma.

You're welcome! No you're not alone..Alot of women actually don't feel connected to their babies right away, people just don't like to discuss it. But I felt the same way. The connection just wasn't there & it made me feel bad. & I didn't want to say anything to anyone bc I didn't wanna look crazy..It kicked in eventually tho.

@simply_unsimple, Thank you. I'm struggling really hard right now with this. Yes, I love him more than anything and I'll do anything for him. But I don't feel "connected" to him and I feel awful about it. Thank you for letting me know I'm not alone.

Honestly, for me it took a few weeks..I feel bad that it wasn't right away.

@mrsgraffiti, I felt the bond literally minutes after my baby was born I just couldn't believe he was mine at 40mins old I latched him for the first time felt strange but as soon as his little cheeks moved I just felt so connected. I feel like when I have another it won't b this way bc he is my first my everything but I'm not sure

Yeah I took a good week to be fully bonded. When they brought her out an out her on my chest I felt disconnected an I was scared to even touch her. But the more time I spent with her the closer I felt! An now idk what I would do without her!!!@mrsgraffiti,

My bond started when they moved us into our private room in the hospital and all my family left. It was just me and my son. I knew he was my one true love when he looked up at me with those big brown eyes. I was going through a divorce at the time that was pretty rough. My son made everything better. Now my son is hogging the bed but I couldn't be happier😊