Okay so I would love someone's input! I hate that my husband watches porn. Hate it hate it! I feel like he watches those…

I tell mine if he ever wants to watch porn to let me know and we'll watch it together or even better we can pretend to be in a porn video. I'll get dressed up and all. He knows my ass will do almost anything but anal. Lol

@jaxmomma, I hope it helps! Keep me posted mama. Keeping my fingers crossed for you

@missliss, I'm totally doing that!!! If he gets mad, then maybe he will understand!

I'm super petty, it's really bad. Found out when my husband and I first started dating that he would google women with large breasts, and I got incredibly pissed off. So I started looking at websites with really attractive men in their underwear or sexual stuff like Ryan Reynolds soaking himself with a hose in front of him. It stopped after that. I think with most men, it's difficult for them to understand where women are coming from because society makes us out to be these emotional beings who cry over the drop of a hat, and men being "visual". Well, I call bullshit on that. Women are visual, too. We like attractive men, but we don't parade around looking at porn and checking out men behind our SOs backs. It makes me angry, so I get even.

He started getting the idea and understanding where I was coming from because he didn't like it. He hasn't watched porn or looked at other women online since 😝 @jaxmomma,

Thankfully my fiancé of 4years (not engaged for 4 years but together that long) has never watched it. A long time ago I told him how disgusted I would be if he did...and he wouldn't get anything outta me if he ever ever did. But I have been with men who have... it just disgusts me. I don't understand how watching it could get you off?? Like they aren't doing anything for you so how could you get off.. idk.. I know I'd be having a long talk with him. If it bothers you he needs to stop.. just like if it was us girls watching it and our men didn't like it..we'd have to stop. It shouldn't be that hard.

I love that all us woman can talk about this, and as you can see it is a common thing, so it isn't just you, your beautiful remember that ❤️ @jaxmomma,

I don't think it is about the women in the video because they don't all look perfect and truat they are sleeping with millions of people so.they aren't what guys want for sure, I think it's just a fantasy. Mine doesnt care for porn. Not into it at all but if he was I would care. I guess it's like social media or life, they come across people everyday that migjt think are attractive but they chose you and to make a family with you and be with you. There is a reason for that

I caught my bf now of 4 years through history on our computer 😂 a long time ago, I cried in front of him and told him that it bothered me not that he watched it but that he lied about watching it, that bothered me more and I didn't give him sex for weeks, he hasn't watched it since! It was more of a habit for him than actual enjoyment, talk to him about it. Men look at things differently than us, I. I bet he isn't getting off on their bodies but rather than that it's sex lol @jaxmomma

^^ agree 110% with that!

I had this same problem with my husband after I had my first. I was looking thru his history and saw some things I didn't like at all. Finally I broke down to him and told him it made me sick to my stomach thinking about him looking at other women. He felt so bad about it and explained to me that men are "visual" and like to look at it, get off, and it's done and over with and never think about it after they finish. I still to this day don't understand but it doesn't even bother me anymore. But don't beat yourself up over it. It's not cuz you're not good enough, I promise. You are beautiful. It's just a stupid thing they do. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Im the same way, i wish i could give you an explanation but honestly im just as confused as you, you're beautiful dont worry to much men will be men

@bri61217, I guess I'll just never understand the need to watch it. I'm not nor have I ever been into that because if I have someone, then I find porn useless, but that's just me. He doesn't watch it as much as he use to but he still does and I'm home when he does it but I guess I'll never be able to change it

I know what you mean @jaxmomma, Awhile ago I caught my boyfriend watching porn too. I instantly just felt discouraged and like I'm not good enough for him.

So I will just say, I agree with you. I prefer my husband come to me before anything, but my husband also has an insane sex drive and I don't. So him blowing off some steam while watching something doesn't always bother me, but I make sure I know and have an idea of what he is watching.

Same thing with strip clubs (which he doesn't go to, but just an example).

I would for sure sit down though and try and figure out why he watches it. "All guys watch it," isn't good enough.

Yeah i totally understand how you feel my ex is like that .... does he watch it all the time? And girl they dont even be looking that good dont stress yourself love

@bri61217, I have and he swears he doesn't watch it, but I just had his phone and looked at his history (idk why I do it to myself) and now I'm in a terrible mood. If I'm here, idk why he needs porn. Maybe it's just my insecurities, but how am I not supposed to feel insecure when he's watching porn with these great (fake) looking girls. I could look like that too if I had their money 🙄😔 I just don't know why it's a "need"

I feel the same way about porn ... not only that but its nasty, do you think maybe about sitting with him and explain how you feel and why