@ingridm89, thank you Ingrid ❤️😢

Don't say that, you're not a loser. You're just really nice. You think about others and it's not a bad quality, but sometimes you have to set rules and boundaries.

@ingridm89, aw Ingrid thank you. You know how much of a loser I am when it comes to asserting myself. But I need to do it. It's not fair Ingrid.

Oh Xochilt.. :( I wish I could hug you. You're doing a great job. Be strong and firm. You have to put your foot down. You can do it! I think once you do it, you're going to feel better and find it that you are able to put your foot down.

Give my schedule a try! Plan out two days that work best for him and stick to those days. Give him a set amount of time and let him know he needs to bring diapers, formula (if you're using it) and wipes. Preferably each week since babies go through it so fast, and child support is to be paid by the end of each month. Be stern, and straight forward, but not mean. Just make her available and let him go from there. If he chooses to skip out trust me it's a blessing. It's A LOT easier and A LOT less damaging to your daughter if he's not around rather than half ass parenting. Good luck mama! Let me know if you need help or any advice ! 💜💜

@kailey.gallentine, it really isn't. I'm honestly not comfortable being around him. Because I know he wants nothing to do with me and makes it so obvious. He is abusing of my kindness and my willingness for my daughter. Thank you so much for your advice seriously ❤️😊

Do it! It makes it a lot easier. It's not your job to work around schedules, it's your job to make her available. I'm super strict when it comes to visitation only because I was manipulated for so long by my baby daddy. He kicked and screamed and fought me on it but I stood my ground and now it works. It was a rough first two months but once he figured out I wasn't budging then he stopped complaining as much. Now it's the battle of getting him to contribute more. As for his mom, it's not her daughter so it doesn't really matter. Make your daughter available, but again don't go out of your way if it's not reciprocated. I don't let baby daddy's mom around my daughter. So I don't have to worry about it. She's a toxic woman and made racial slurs to and about my daughter. So I cut that relationship real quick 😂👊🏻

@kailey.gallentine, wow I should seriously take your example and put in practice. In my case it's so hard because his mom is so involved. But I need to put my foot down. I can't be doing everything for their convenience.
Haha my mom has heard it all over and over again

Girl I get it haha there's not enough words to explain the frustration. It does really help though to vent about it. I'm sure my mom is tired of hearing about it hahaha

My baby daddy tried that bullshit so I stopped it. He's only allowed to see her if he comes over to my house and he's allowed to be here from 9:30-2:30 two days a week. He isn't allowed to take her out of the house and no tv, or anything while he's here. I make the bottles when she's hungry and that's that. I got tired of bending to his needs and his wants. My daughter lives with me so this is her home. He wants to see her then he can come to her home. She shouldn't have to galavant around Gods creation because it's more convenient to him. I put my foot down haha
Guys these days . I just don't get it 🙃🙄

@kailey.gallentine, sorry for the essay lol it just feels nice to let it out to someone who understands what you're going through.

@kailey.gallentine, that's amazing. I swear these two guys are so similar. My daughter's father lives at home too. I honestly think I'm in the wrong for catering to his needs. I give up my weekends to go over to his parents place where he Iives, I sleep over so he can see our daughter. And this guy passes the day away from her in his room or texting away. Then he leaves all of a sudden and doesn't come back until past midnight. Or he sleeps the day away. Yet he posts pictures on his Instagram showing that he's taking care of her or watching her all alone 🙄 girl these guys are something else 😖😐

Mine comes and goes about every 3 weeks. He post all about how hard it is to be a single dad on his Instagram but when he comes over he's only here for 3 hours max and doesn't bring anything and fights be on paying child support. He just comes over for the fun stuff and doesn't sack up for the responsibility part of it. So I have two jobs working my ass off to pay for her while he lives at home with his mom and doesn't have a job 🙄🖕🏻

@kailey.gallentine, for real! 🙄 it's getting annoying

LITERALLY!!! My baby daddy does the same thing 😩🙄 like step up or step out dude!

@kitcatmeow8383, i really hope he does come around for your daughter. Your daughter deserves the best and nothing less. I hope he can give her that ❤️

@moonslugg, you are so so welcome ❤️

@katebesoushko, thank you 😊

@moonslugg, good! If you need a shoulder, I'm here!

@katebesoushko, I agree! Thankfully I'm not with him and will not be

@kitcatmeow8383, my daughter's father doesn't have any other children but he was the same way when I was pregnant. He never texted to see how my appointments went I practically begged him to go to the ultrasounds and now that she's born he seems the same. He only changed the day she was born and a few days after but it didn't last. I go over there with her and he rather go drink with his friends then spend time with her. I sometimes regret that I allowed and hoped he was involved in my daughter's life. I hope it goes better for you 😔❤️❤️❤️ @kitcatmeow8383,

YOU BOTH DESERVE BETTER! I'm free to vent to!