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Katie S
kaitiegun
Katie S

Hi ladies I need advice... so I'm a stay at home mom on food stamps as I'm Epileptic and can't work. it's a big help but it's not a lot of money. Recently, I lost my wick checks - they're these vouchers for getting baby food - and have been really upset because I feel so angry at my husband. He goes to school full-time and works occasionally on weekends.. not every weekend and I'm very resentful of I'm because I feel like he's not providing. Yes education is important but it doesn't put food on the table right now. We are in couples therapy but I just don't know if it's worth it... I do love him, but it took almost a year just to get him to set up the therapy appointments and idk if I should just keep waiting and hoping it'll going to work out, or move on? Anyone been in a similar situation? I need some advice

25.04.2017

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mberjuste5
chelle berjus·Многодетная мама (6 детей)

Ohhh my goshhhh @morganmommy79 I would have been left, your hubby needs some prayer seriously 😂...... @kaitiegun I say hang in there, school eventually brings in a good paying job, stay there encourage him....do you get a disability check? Encourage him to get an over night job if it won't be too hard on him...... Either way money is a struggle to get, must work hard for it, going to school will help a lot in the future

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morganmommy79
Marilu·Мама троих детей

I was in a similar situation and we are still together. Money is our biggest problem. Although, I work part time. My husband HATES me to spend $ so I rarely get anything for myself. When we first met he moved in with me and never paid one bill. He ate my food, used my utilities, even drove my van! He worked part time and barely made enough to live off of but it was his own business. He refused to work a real job. Then he let it go and got a job and made good money. Way more than me. I was a single mom of 2 kids, working part time and going to college full time barely paying my bills and he spent his $ on himself. He would even order food and eat it in front of us. He would offer to buy me food but not my kids. So I didn't eat his food. He had really nice stuff and I couldn't afford anything but he was living in MY apartment rent free and didn't pay any bills. Finally I made him pay half or move out. He agreed to pay. Now we are married (yes, even after that) and he provides but makes it clear to us that he does the majority of it and that we need to respect him. He's controlling over money. Even the child support I get from my kids father. I pretty much sneak and buy things because if it were up to him I wouldn't get to spend any $, just him. But that's our biggest argument. I spend $ anyway so it's not worth leaving him for. Because I do love him. He's came a long way in the last 5 years. Sounds horrible. But we are making it together somehow. Lol

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slk620

Is the only problem you two are having financial issues? Personally, I feel like when you're with the right person, you just know. It sounds cliche, but from what I've experienced it's accurate. Like your soul just knows. But other than that, every relationship is going to have its problems. Finances are always a big one. Do you get disability at all? I'd try to be a little easier on him. I'm not sure how old you all are but I'm assuming he's in college, so he's going to school to try and better himself and get a decent job. Yes money right now is important, but I don't feel like you can toss school to the side either. I stopped for a few semesters once and it was so hard for me to go back, I almost didn't. At least he works sometimes and isn't just sitting there doing nothing. Just try to remember relationships aren't 50/50. They're 100/100. Both people have to actively try. Sometimes one person gives more than the other, but in the end it balances out. Hang in there girly.

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