Advice, please? I want your opinions. I love my kids and I always take them everywhere I go. We go to the park while daddy is at work and I love playing with them. But I want me time. I want to go on dates with husband and night out once a year with friends. My family and husband says I'm selfish and I don't love them enough cause if I did I would never leave them ... Am really being selfish? I feel really bad with myself... If everyone says it...
Us Momma's NEED us time so that we can be the best Momma's we can be! Definitely not selfish! Sounds like they must not ever take care of themselves. Sometimes putting you first is better for them
Uh.. that's very rude & hateful for someone (esp family) to tell you that you don't love your kids...
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a mom doing for herself every now and then.
Most mom's get 15-30.mins a day to themselves because their SO realize they need a break to. You have to be sane/okay, in order for everyone else to be okay. Mom's that don't get a chance to have time for themselves often times fall into depression, which makes them not be okay and almost regret being a mom..(I have a friend who never, ever, gets a break because her husband is a self centered jerk)
She has 2 year old twins and a 4 year old. She stays severely upset, and isn't the mother she wants to be because she can't ever think for two seconds for herself, without a baby climbing on her or screaming/crying.
Just because you don't physically get up and go to work, doesn't mean you don't have a job. If you don't get up and take care of the kids everyday, then who else is going to do that JOB?
See my point?
You do have a job. While everyone else gets the weekends off, gets to leave their job everyday, and gets a BREAK..your job never ends. @aradyluz31
Well still, we clean and cook and are busy. It's nice to just get out for a few hours child less. I never do cause I don't like burdening my parents to watch the baby even though they love too. I just feel bad cause he's my responsibility and his dad is never around to help. But my mom encourages me to go out with friends or on dates. Don't let them get to you. It's not like you want to do it every night. It's like once a month. They need to chill out.
@missjess, they just go "you don't work and your kids are at school all day you have plenty of time" what bothers me the most is my husband say it too
Don't feel bad! They are wrong. Any person would tell you it's good to get out once in awhile without your children! We need breaks too. It's important. So people don't see that and just expect you to be a mom full time 24/7 365 days a year and that's how we get burnt out.
No! My doctor told me it's important to have you time a couple times a week. This is something I never do cause I'm a single mom. But really it is important to do things just for you sometimes so you can recharge and be better for your children.
Is it rude to not want anyone at the hospital?
I was just informed that my MIL wants to be waiting at the hospital so as soon as I pop out the baby she can rush in to be with the baby. I am really a private person and dont really want anyone at the hospital when I give birth (except my husband). I was planning on calling all the family to come to the hospital once I was all cleaned up and ready for visitors. Am I being rude? How do I tell them I dont want visitors a minute after pushing out...
Ugh I'm having a name regret moment. While I really like her name and I know my husband loves her name.(it was the only one on our list that he loved) I can't help but think about the other names I loved. We can't really change it now 1)we got her going home outfit monogrammed 2) my husband would never want to change it because he loves it. 😭
Updated opks, sorry my vitamins make them yellow. I really want to count the top one as positive but I'm going to wait and see what my chart says. Wish me luck!!
Am I wrong for not wanting anybody to hold the baby if it's not me or my husband? If they touch them I have them to sanitize their hands I do it to my kids also??
I really hate tampons. I know we need them, but I really really hate them.
@stephs, thank you 💕💕💕😊😊