I was actually getting paid for it but no one told us if we got married that I couldn't legally get paid for helping him. @brownsugarluv

Things are about to get real hectic with the babies girl. Try and work it all out before their arrival. Any way you could be his caretaker and get paid for it? I don't know about your insurance coverage but many offer assistance for different situations.

@brownsugarluv thank you! Since day 1 I've always helped when I could and as we got used to me helping and got more comfortable with me doing certain thing for him it's only been me doing it. Which is fine I'd rather me be the one to do everything for him because I know how it's done. After we met his brother pretty much told us that he's done helping at all and it was my job from now on. He and my sister would leave for days and I'd stay with him for 3 or 4 days (I was only 17 at the time so my parents wanted me home sometimes which didn't work out because his brother never wanted to be home) then he ended uppving in with me and my parents and then all four of us lived together and his brother was so mean to me and him all the time so we moved eventually. His brother is a mean selfish drunk

That's not right and definitely not ok.

I cut my own mother off for 7 years.

You are your husbands biggest advocate. Fire the brother and hire someone who will take care of your husband with dignity and compassion. For someone to throw your husbands disability in your face is a cruel insult.

I would document everything. Especially about the care of your husband. There are plenty of agencies that will assist disabled people.

My husband is also confined to a wheelchair and I know how hard it can be.. It doesn't have to be negative or a hassle.

I hope things work out for you hun. That's a horrible way to try and live.

@morganmommy79 @isabellesmomma212 And I literally am so afraid to leave him here alone while I'm in the hospital. I know our family isn't going to check on him to empty urinals or help him use the bathroom if need be. My mom will check in once a day but what about the rest of the day?? I know his brother will be drunk by 4 everyday and not want to help if he calls without being an asshole to him about everything... he always try to make fun of him and make it seem like my husband's gunshot to the head is no big deal and it's an easy injury to get over. Yeah it was 10 years ago but somethings never heal. I wish some people would understand it like I try to.

Thanks ladies @morganmommy79 @isabellesmomma212 I'm just gonna quit talking to them unless they talk to me and if they ask for anything the answer is always going to be no. I'm so done with it. I'm tired of them always treating my husband as some type of burden on them. He's the nicest person you'd ever meet and o love him with everything in me... I just don't understand how our "family" can't even help out when I'm physically unable to do so.

That's fine. I understand what you mean. I don't like cutting off family members either but sometimes enough is enough. She can always tell them she's done with them for a while until they get there heads out of there butts. Lol @morganmommy79

@isabellesmomma212, I was posting mine as you posted. I didn't say that about cutting ties because you did. lol I posted it then noticed your message. 😊

@twinmomma2b, you an cut them off without cutting ties. All you're doing is enabling them to take advantage of you. Now that you're pregnant it's time to put your family first. Which is you, your hubby and babies. If you're like me you don't like hurting even the people that hurt you because you have a big heart, but there comes a time you HAVE to stop the insanity. Your hubby needs someone that can help him when needed and not just when its convenient. He deserves better than that. ESP if he's getting paid and not doing his job!!! You don't need the stress or your hubby and babies.

Also, find proof you bought the car so you can get it back.

What horrible people. I would definitely cut off all ties to them. They are not family if they treat you guys like that. I hope you guys find a wonderful person to replace them with.

I'm sooo sorry

@katiesmiles1 @isabellesmomma212 @bellesmomma @allyk.xmommy we are going to fire him. I'm totally over his bs and my sisters bs. The only reason they are using the van is because my mother is letting them. Unfortunately, when I was bout 18 I didn't have my license to buy the van but I had a full time job to pay it off myself so my mom put it in her name and said we'd switch it over once I got my license and I just forgot to do it. I never thought it would be a big deal like her signing the title over to my sister when she knew I had a problem with it. Now there is no way of getting the van back unless they sign it back over and she won't do that. My sister has been treating me like shit since they got the van in their possession... Saturday we were at the pool and my husband had to use the bathroom (he has to have help using a bedpan) we were only about 5 minute drive away from my house and she said no! She told me he can just sit in it and clean his self up which he cannot do and I won't allow that to happen I always find a way to make it back to him to help. So she got mad and told me that if I leave I'm nothing but his " fucking slave" like really?!? So I got the keys from her husband and he was mad too like wtf this is your brother dude. He told me he can shit the bed and use our sheet off the bed to clean it up with.... 😢 I cried the whole way home and the whole time I was at home with my husband.. I don't understand how family can be like this...

Definitely fire him if he's not going to do his job. That shit wouldn't work anywhere else so don't let them use you guys. You need real help and if your not getting it from him, find someone else.

I'm sorry but if he's getting paid to do his job and isn't doing it I would fire him and get someone who will actually do his job and also take the car back what type of crap is that.

I would take the van away and report his ass. How dare they do this to you guys. I would let his boss know the threat too