This was on my fb. What do u guys think of this???
This was on my fb. What do u guys think of this???
MY CHILD IS NOT REQUIRED TO SHARE WITH YOURS.
As soon as we walked in the park, Carson was approached by at least 6 boys, all at once demanding that he share his transformer, Minecraft figure, and truck. He was visibly overwhelmed and clutched them to his chest as the boys reached for them. He looked at me.
"You can tell them no, Carson," I said. "Just say no. You don't have to say anything else."
Of course, as soon as he said no, the boys ran to tattle to me that he was not sharing. I said, "He doesn't have to share with you. He said no. If he wants to share, he will."
That got me some dirty looks from other parents. Here is the thing though:
If I, an adult, walked into the park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No!
Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, reach out to help themselves to my sandwich, and get huffy if I pulled it away? No again.
So really, while you're giving me dirty looks, presumably thinking my son and I are rude, whose manners are lacking here? The person reluctant to give his 3 toys away to 6 strangers, or the 6 strangers demanding to be given something that doesn't belong to them, even when the owner is obviously uncomfortable?
The goal is to teach our children how to function as adults. While I do know some adults who clearly never learned how to share as children, I know far more who don't know how to say no to people, or how to set boundaries, or how to practice self-care. Myself included.
In any case, Carson only brought the toys to share with my friend's little girl, who we were meeting at the park. He only didn't want to share with the greedy boys because he was excited to surprise her with them.
The next time your snowflake runs to you, upset that another child isn't sharing, please remember that we don't live in a world where it's conducive to give up everything you have to anyone just because they said so, and I'm not going to teach my kid that that's the way it works👌
p·
I don't agree with this person while I get what she's trying to teach her child, in my very personal opinion we still gotta teach our kids how to share cuz that brings compassion towards others as well, i don't expect anyone to share their stuff with my daughter, if i would've been one of the other parents at the park, I'd go get my child and tell him not to ask for stuff that isn't his
Cc DeV·
Мама дочки-младенца
I short of agreed... But I feel like you can say no in a respectful way. Plusly, what stranger ask for you sandwich?? She got to realize.. there kids! They may learned the importance of sharing cause they had siblings. I agree that u don't have to share with strangers... but them parents should've respect that
Denisa H·
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года)
I agree with her. I believe she explained it very well. I was taught not to ask for things that weren't mine. You aren't required to share what is yours, it is your choice whether you'd like to or not. It is only considered good manners to share.
Caitie·
Мама двоих (8 лет, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
I too saw this on Facebook. I agree, however I don't agree with her calling other kids "snowflake" because the original poster was black and was clearly calling other kids snowflakes because of their race.
Megan Sweigart·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (21 нед.)
I 100 agree you dont need to share with strangers story time my necie shared her toys at a park being nice said toys got stolen and never seen again 1 time thing nope happen 3 more times if they ask nicely maybe but to demand something be given to them isnt cool to share with other kids at school yes that is needed to share with siblings and family friends yep you need to do not to complete strangers
Samantha·
@cupcakekiki calling somebody a "snowflake" is not a racist thing. It's a term for a liberal.
That being said I totally agree with this statement. I think it's important to teach your child how to share and be giving, compassionate but that doesn't mean forcing them to do so. They can make that choice for themselves. This little boy obviously had his reasons. And it was to wait and share with his friend.