I already feel like a shitty mom...my baby is 2 days old and my hubby pointed out I can't even do my job right as a mom.…
I already feel like a shitty mom...my baby is 2 days old and my hubby pointed out I can't even do my job right as a mom. After I fed her he wanted to burp her and I let him. I laid down and he saw me going to sleep. 20 minutes later I wake up hearing her screaming her head off and him trying to raise his voice at me to wake up. I haven't slept in literally 12 hours taking care of her. 20 minutes was all I had and he complained that I didn't wake up fast enough when she started crying...he's worried that if he goes to work I'll sleep through her crying and she won't be able to eat. I'm trying my hardest here and so far I'm failing...he's pointing out everything I'm doing wrong. It's my first baby! What the hell! I can't help but feel so terrible...
milan lang·
Мама дочки (1 год)
You will get through it. I used to put an alarm on so if shes sleeping i would sleep when she slept sometimes. My daughter ate every b 2 hours so i would set an alarm to wake up every 2 hours! @jerin
Amanda Najieb·
Мама сына-младенца
I know it's hard but try not to be so hard on yourself. Your husband need to realize you just spend 9 months carry her and just give birth just days ago. He should be giving you a break instead of making you feel bad as a mother. The both of you will learn as you go. No one is great at being a parent right a way. Maybe you two can set up rules on who do what. So it can be easier on both of you. Sometimes we assume one person is going to do certain things and don't communicate what we aspect from each other.
Lauren🖤·
Y'all are new to this and are drained of sleep. It does get easier I promise. But i was worried about the same thing. ..sleeping through her cries. What i did was if i had the monitor i turned it all the way up and laid it on my face/ear when i slept so i had to wake up. Then i co slept so i had no choice but to wake up
Lauren🖤·
Setting alarms every 2 hrs is good too!
Faith·
Мама троих детей
You are not a shitty mother. Your hubby should understand that you just went through labor and labor is hard work and takes a lot out of you. He needs to understand that you need your rest. I wouldn't worry about you not waking up to your daughter crying. Your mommy instincts will kick in. Sleep when your daughters sleeping. Just take it slow and try to get as much rest as you can. The beginning is not always easy but as time passes you'll be in a routine and it will get easier.
Mari·
Your doing a great job! Don't pay attention to him! You feed your baby. Obviously he couldn't do his job right as a father/husband bc 1 he couldn't calm her down and 2 he didn't let you rest knowing you haven't slept. So please hun, don't EVER feel that your a bad mommy. *xoxo*
crysten nicole·
Мама сына-младенца
Nope not a shitty mom just tired af!!!! I remember after I had my boy the nurse would wake me up every like 2 hours or so while I was healing from my c section to breastfeed my boy in the nicu. I'd be in that room full of babies trying to get him to latch and then I'd pass out lol you're not alone. Trust me.
crysten nicole·
Мама сына-младенца
Also before he tries to tell you anything you look him dead in the eye and tell him the minute he pushes a baby out of his vagina is the moment he can talk. Two days later. Smh.
Kendra Culp·
Мама сына (3 года)
First of all your body is tired you just had a baby! Secondly he needs to get a grip and be a father! Thirdly the best time to start putting your baby on a schedule for sleep and try to keep them stimulated as much as you can during the day so they can sleep well at night