Do you believe in old school values, staying v together thru thick and thin once you've made that…

It's about the one and only you gave your vow to. Vows are sacred. If you search for someone else, he will come with a different set of problems and viewpoints... and the more you search the less happy you'll be. True happiness comes from knowing the almighty God is your father and you're his queen. The rest, follows! 💞

I think youre supposed to try and work things out. There's never a perfect match! Just 2 people who want to make it work.

@kambam, so no matter what? What if he's really mean to you sometimes? What if the relationship is abusive? Can people change??

@desirechild, how can u tell what's Gods intended path for u? Marriage comes with a certain amount of respect too right? Maybe I'm just doing it wrong do you have some suggestions? I want this to work more than anything but I'm frustrated and I want to give up!

No abusive relationships are unacceptable! Being mean happens. True abuse is not ok.

@kambam, what about not abuse, but manipulation? What if it's just a matter of immaturity? What if the person just doesn't know any better, was raised in a way that they've never seen or experienced anything healthy?

I do not believe you should stay in an unhappy/unhealthy/unloving marriage. Sometimes you make a mistake and realize you are not meant to be. I was more alone in my first marriage than I have ever been in my entire life. Maybe I'm too progressive, but sure it's a "vow" but it's also my happiness. And I definitely knew I didn't want to bring a child into the world with him. Now years later I'm with the man of my dreams. He makes every ounce of my body happy. I love him so much. But to clarify, you're wording of "keep looking for what's better" isn't what I mean. I'll never look for something better now because I'm happy. And leaving my 1st husband had nothing to do with looking for something better; it was about not being with him. Good luck love. You deserve happiness.

Any form of abuse it is not worth working on a relationship as it will only stop for a little while and will come back 10x worse

I think its really up to you. My childs father is like that. I had to leave. Being unhappy around my child wasn't working. We deserve to be happy and if that means finding someone or something else then so be it. Luckily I wasnt married or it might have been different

@kambam, different because of taking a vow? Appreciating all the input here ladies. And I didn't mean to offend anyone with wording I'm just clumsy and lost in my own head! @ashwee33, @ewainess,

Yeah i think marriage means you should try everything before quitting. But physical abuse has to go asap! Just saying. Wouldn't want the kids around it either

@megsandbabes i was with a man for 13yrs and married for 10yrs he cheated 4 times we tried to work on things for about a year or more but gave up bc we grew apart i wanted different things then he did and the fighting and name calling was just getting worse it was the best decision ever made! I met my husband now and have all the love i ever need and i also got my rainbow baby, so it is completely up to you what u decide to do.

The man you gave your promise to, God blesses that union. He gave us a beautiful gift of choice of who to marry. So don't think back or regret. Gotta go foreword. You're here today.

Plus Your heart will always tell you what to do. It's Deep inside , listen to the voice that gives you peace. God allows divorce for cheating for example so there are certain boundaries that should not be crossed. Some women forgive, some do or don't but still divorce. It's what one can handle in a (cheating) situation.

If you believe that God will

Restore your marriage and you pour your heart and grief to him, He will!!!!

He is always faithful.

I don't wanna preach because sometimes I want to give up too but so far, a voice is telling me to keep trusting Lord, keep believing, and He will fix the broken!

I lay my brokenness at his feet and walk away. I personally can't fix anything but myself. And I don't wanna stress and worry. But He will

Care for those who cast their worries on Him.

Trust your loved ones into His restoring hands and enjoy life mama. He will do a better job with changing them anyway :)

Joyce Meyer has awesome sermons on daily struggles /life/marriage on YouTube!

Don't give up hope!! I'll pray for your family too

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