Who else has financial issues within their relationship?? Or am I just lucky 🙄🙄 Not sure if I'm being just mean or what. But my SO used $160 from me this morning. I gave him my bank card because he needed $60 to get material for work. His boss was going to give it back to him at the end of the day. So instead of $60 he took out $160. Which I was a little pissed. (One of the reasons I just can't let him use my card. I have to go get the money from the atm myself if I'm giving it to him) then, tonight he asked for $20 incase his boss didn't give it to him. So I gave him my card not even thinking because I had kids running around me. I asked if he could pick up a few things that were out of and told him he could use my card if he has too. And I even told him not to get the expensive brands or anything m generic is fine. So he does. But when he does he decides to go Easter shopping for the kids. (Not sure if he used to my card or not) but if he did, I'd be even more pissed. He knows I have bills to pay on top of giving my son's school money that I owe them. He goes to a private school and I haven't paid in 5 months. It's towards the end of school now so I need to pay it. He knows this month I am extremely tight because of the school, im already in debt and my credit score sucks. I have been trying not to get in more debt and actually fix my credit. I'm so frustrated. It's like we have different priorities and different ideas on this. I feel like I'm completely drowning!!
So its been a long time since I've been on here. So much has happened. I don't know if I need to vent or what but I'm so sick of being called a rapes by my own husband because he has sex apnea and every once in a while it happens and i don't know what is happening until he has already inside me and almost about to cum. Every time I don't stop him and wake him up from the act I get called a rapist and told he will call the police and have me arrested for rape and throwing in jail. When it first started happening I had known clue that it happened. Hell he never brought it up until it happened. At first he didn't have a problem with it happened but the last two years it has changed hell our lives and marriage has changed after i cheating on him. I have been trying to find a way to make things better for us but nothing i do helps. I don't think we will ever get passed it.I have suggested we go to counseling anything to help but he says no. We are about to have our 6th child together. 4 before I cheated and 2 after. I know that us having 2 more kids is not the best thing we needed but it happened and I love everyone of my children. I have told him that we need to get a divorce and he says ok but i can't have any one of our children so I continue to stay praying everyday that things will be better and it doesn't. Im at my wit's end. Im halfway out the door and half in. Im not losing or leaving my children with him. Don't get me wrong hes a great dad. And he was a great husband. I just don't know what to do or say or anything anymore more maybe yall moms can help or give me some advice.
I am so upset! Went for my 33 week checkup and they told me I have 2 stds! I have not been with anyone other than my sons dad and he says he has been faithful to me I have been crying all morning!
I need help!!! Something is wrong with my dog and I have no money or job to take him to the vet. I think hes dying idk
So Dr has sent me in to do labs because I mentioned to him how itchy I’ve been these last couple of days. Any other moms gone through this before? He mentioned if something came up in my blood we’d have to do my section sooner than what it is scheduled for.
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A man cant get it. Bacterial vaginosis is just when your normal flora is interrupted.
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@beebaby, no he can't get it but he can give it to me and he needs the Antibiotics to this is the second dr that's said he needs treatment as well because this is the 3rd time I have had this I can't give it to him but if I treat it and he doesn't take antibiotics then I will get it again
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No. He isn't giving you anything. When having unprotected sex the skin on skin contact can mess with your ph and normal flora in the vagina. I have no clue why the doctor is saying that. We treat women every day for BV and none of there partners are treated. It's not an std or something that is given to you by a man. You can get BV from using a dildo because it something foreign in your area.
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I can happen from douching, using soap down there, using sex oils and gels, from tampons. You can get it without being with a man at all
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@beebaby, well then there are some idiots around because idk either lol all I know is if they say he needs to get treatment then he needs to and yea I know it's not an std I just don't understand I have not ever had this issue in my life but in the past 6 months this is the 3rd time it's getting annoying but hopefully we see what my vaginal ultrasound says Monday and see if that may be causing some of my other pains and issues
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Yeah. They are definitely idiots. You can't treat him for something when he isn't doing it. It's just like a yeast infection. Women over time just get a build up of bacteria. Women normally carry bacteria and when you mix that with his during sexual intercourse it can cause BV. If he is using soap down there before you do it can be the cause of the BV.
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
I don't use tampons I don't douche and I use Unscented soaps we don't use oils or gels or anything I don't own dildos lol so I guess it's just from having sex with my husband and I guess he can just wait for sex because as of not it's causing me pain and to be uncomfortable and I think all the drs in the USA need to meet and get on the same pages so all of us women can stop being told one thing and they get told another from their drs lol @beebaby,
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Giving him antibiotics wouldn't change anything for him because he had nothing to actually cure.
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
Well he sometimes doesn't shower after work which I have been telling his ass if he isn't gonna shower after work he isn't getting any from me because it's gross so maybe the few times I gave in when he didn't shower is what caused me the problems or maybe when he showered with his man soap it caused it all I know is these antibiotics suck they make me so sick @beebaby,
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I have been working in healthcare for 7 years now and never in my life have we treated a man for BV.
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@beebaby, yea idk what my drs are saying it for then maybe I should question them lol @beebaby,
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Exactly. That's what I'm saying @caseyxo2017
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@caseyxo2017, this is a new dr I just had to leave my old dr because they wasn't helping me at all and they even said he needed to be treated for it so idk what's going on with these drs
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Yeah. It truly does not make since. Sucks that you keep getting it but it shouldn't be causing you a bunch of pain either. It should mainly be just discharge so hope they figure out what is going on with ya
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@beebaby, that's why we went for the ultrasound as well because she thinks I may have a cyst
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It is possible but a yeast infection shouldnt cause pain, more itchy and thick discharge like cottage cheese. It's more uncomfortable than painful but I guess everyone is different. They should have tested for that at the same time and could have determined it was yeast. It's the same test as BV. @caseyxo2017
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@caseyxo2017, my urine came back fine it was the culture swab that showed the bacteria she said no yeast or anything she thinks I may have something going on with my ovaries or something will hopefully know Monday
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Aw okay. I have one and it sucks. My causes me.pain every once and again.
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@beebaby, they did test for all that they did Urine and swab
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
What a cyst @beebaby,
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@beebaby, have you ever heard of someone's uterus being tilted back the nurse doing my ultrasound couldn't see anything because of it and had to do he vaginal ultrasound to get better pictures and she said that it's normal is that normal lol
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Yes. I have a cyst on my ovary. It has hurt from time to time during my pregnancy
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Yes. You can have a tilted uterus. It's common in some women
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@beebaby, ok just making sure cuz I have never been told this before
leslee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@beebaby, can a cyst not be removed