I feel so alone everyday. After easton was born 8 months ago, I thought since my boyfriend already has a 8 year old he…
I feel so alone everyday. After easton was born 8 months ago, I thought since my boyfriend already has a 8 year old he would help me out with out LO knowing how much work It takes. Nope, we sleep in separate rooms because he says our son keeps him awake at night and he has to go to work the next day, he doesnt give him baths, feed him or change him.... in 8 months. He doesn't get in the floor and play with him, like hand him a ball, build stuff for our son to knock over etc. There for I'm left to take care of our son all day, work my nanny job, come home to cook, clean, clean up after our son, wash clothes, fold clothes, feed myself and our son, give him a bath and put him to bed. He doesn't even really interact with his 8 year old and do stuff with him unless you tell him to. He won't even clean up after himself unless I ask him to. I have to ask him to take out the trash, grab our 8 month old from shutting his fingers in the drawer beside him. He has never spent a whole day alone with our child, he has never took our 8 month old in the car with him without me, he goes to work, comes home, eats what I cook, takes a shower, leaves his clothes in the bathroom floor and watches TV until he goes to bed. We have been in HUGE fights over him cleaning up after himself before and nothing has changed. He does buy formula for our son, and pays all the bills aside from my phone bill, car insurance, car payment. I buy all of our sons toys, clothes and essential needs. Am I over reacting or are all guys like this? I feel like i have 3 kids.
Teresa·
I don't think you're over reacting. My husband helps a lot with our son even though I'm a stay at home mom. I do have to ask him sometimes but he almost always says yes when I do. It's both of your responsibility when he's home from work. He may not be able to do certain things. For example breast feed but there is lots of other stuff he can do to help. He can even give a bottle at times to give u a break. Make sure you ask for the help you need. Talk to him if you're feeling like he's not doing his part and let him know you need him to help out more. Just go in the other room if it gets heated do you don't upset your baby. Communication is key. If he's getting away with not helping much don't let him get comfortable doing nothing. It will be easier to try to change now. Remember people only treat you how you allow them to. Let him know what's expected of him and this is his responsibility too.
kayla walters·
Мама дочки-младенца
that's how Landon is too a complete kid(not very sweet), can't clean even when told. he loves his daughter but that doesn't make him help out all he does is game😫
Brittany·
Мама сына-младенца
I mean he is the sweetest, most loving person to me and I know he loves the kids but gah he is so sloppy and is a child! I don't feel like I should have to tell a 30 year old what to do when you can clearly see things need to be done. If you see dishes in the sink, the trash about to over flow, etc wouldn't you take care of it? Apparently the answer is push the trash down because you can always add more. @belle6414
kayla walters·
Мама дочки-младенца
you described my baby daddy exactly! 😒 I hate it oh and my bf doesnt work so he truly is a kid uhh
Victoria Shreiner·
Мама сына-младенца
Nope. He's a grown ass man that made half of that child too. Time to man up and help out. I had to tell my husband that even though this is our first baby and his first time with infants. I taught him how to be a parent. I work to contribute toward bills mine, his, and our son's needs. Even stay at home moms deserve some help every now and again.
Brittany·
Мама сына-младенца
It just sucks because we are in the process of moving and I have done all the packing. He hasn't helped with anything.
Deleted·
I don't feel like you are over reacting at all! My fiancé works a full time job, does laundry, helps with dishes and cooking and still spends time with me and our daughter. On top of that, he works night shift to beat it all and he still makes time. Sounds like he needs to make some changes for you guys.. I'm sorry you're going through this. 🙁