I don't even know what to do anymore. Got a call from kindergarten teacher telling me my kid had a stealing problem. She apparently convinced a kid to take some books out of the school library without checking them out (they don't have those detector things). This is all on top of her stealing another kids chapstick and lying about having it and punching another kid in the chest. I'm at my wits end!
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@star_wars_freak_2010, maybe try some positive reinforcement separate from this - It looks like she's a fairly new big sister (congrats!) so maybe some of this is in reaction to the big change. She used to get all of your attention. So, perhaps you can set up a mommy- daughter date just for you and her. If there is a show she likes, record it and sit with her during your babies nap time and make that your special time each week. You can still hold her completely accountable for her actions, but she may just be also looking for some additional attention. I had twins when my oldest was 4. She has struggled in different ways with that change. The one-on-one time is something she craves to this day. Even if it's just special cuddle time and tuck-in every night at bed (without fail). That happens to be her currency. I acknowledge the frustrations she has as being normal and ok, but that she still has to make good choices.
@unperfectmother, I've sat her down and talked to her so many times, I'm not even sure it would do anything. We've spanked, time outs, talked to her, behavior charts. You name it we've probably done it.
@nicolelh, she says she didn't do it and tries to blame it on other kids even if you watched her do the whole thing. She refuses to admit she did the act.
Please just sit down and talk to her about it.. sometimes smacking is good for them.
That's definitely tough! She's still young and there's plenty of time to help her correct her choices. What has she told you/said in response to getting caught?
@nicolelh, it wouldn't shock me if that was part of the problem. She's never really had my full attention. When she was little I was a single mom and lived with my parents. My daughter basically lived at the daycare and when we came home I had homework to do. Now I'm married and the babies keeping me busy since I can't get her to take a bottle. Unfortunately her naps are non existent unless someone's holding her (then I can get maybe 20 mins). My husband will keep brushing my 5 year old off saying she doesn't need attention all the time and then go back to playing with his trading cards. If I force him to spend time with her he complains he never gets to do what he wants. It's a never ending battle with those two. I try to tuck her in at night but sometimes that doesn't even happen.