Anyone a "step-mom"? (Not a fan of the term step-mom) Do you deal with ur kids having anger issues?…

Anyone a "step-mom"? (Not a fan of the term step-mom) Do you deal with ur kids having anger issues? Trying to get them to tell you what is bugging them...I get very frustrated over the fact that I can't help them because they won't say what is wrong. I see the pain in their eyes and I know they are hurting and no matter what I say or do it doesn't help.