So I checked my 5 year olds school folder this morning to see the teacher wrote me a lengthy note. Not only did my…

They're exact opposites lol

@star_wars_freak_2010, he is a different person than his daughter.

@marzuniversal, that's what I told him but he insists that when he was that age that he was able to do it. But maybe I'll try your idea. It might help. Although we talked to her a little after school and she says she wants to be kicked out and that's why she's misbehaving. I don't even know where that thought came from for her

100 stickers is way too much for a child that young. And consistency is key. After a whole month, she gets a bigger reward of her choosing. My mom would bring me to the store and I would pick out toys and treats. She would keep them until I earned them. If I had a few bad days in a row, she would take them out and remind me what I was working towards.

@shellymakuk93, yeah my daughter knows what I'm doing and is usually okay with it. Unfortunately when it's bed time for the baby I get a little snippy at the 5 year old but she's usually pretty good

I wish i had your problem. Mine refuses the breast right now.

If she's aware that youre feeding her.

@shellymakuk93, do you mean if she's aware of how in feeding her? Or if she's in the same room? I breastfeed in the living room so most everyone the family's around when I do it. She appears to understand what's going on.

Does she know what your doing when your breastfeeding the baby?

@marzuniversal, I might try your approach she loves rewards. My husband has a chart going but he's not consistent and he says she doesn't get a reward until she earns 100 stickers -_-

@shellymakuk93, it wouldn't surprise me if it's the baby. I'd let her feed her but she just breastfeeds since I can't get her to take a bottle. But I try to let them play.

This might be helpful as well

https://www.empoweringparents.com/free-downloadable-charts/multiple-behavchart-for-kids/

Or if a whole week is too much, do five days.

When did the problems start?

I got in trouble a lot as a kid. I wasn't mean I just didn't do what I was told. And I didn't care about consequences. Rewards though? I was down with that. Try setting up a chart. Stickers are good. After school, talk about how the day went. Ask if anyone made her mad or if she had any urges to be naughty. If she managed to not be mean, she gets to put a sticker on the chart. Let her choose the stickers and the colors for the chart. After seven stickers, she gets a treat. (Take her out for a small ice cream or something)

It could be the mixture of both. Sorry about all the comments

I'm guessing she's jelous of baby. Try including her with helping with diapers and feeding. I'm sure she'd be happy to help

Then it's probably your husband.

If you want try a dammit doll you use it to take her frustrations out when I got mad instead of going after others

@mommy2benntley, I've been trying to not have to take her to the doctor but I might have to if she keeps this up. It started out with small problems and it's just slowly progressing to worse things. I'm afraid she'll get kicked out of the school since she's at a private school right now.

@shellymakuk93, I'll try that although I have the feeling she'll say we don't pay attention to her or nobody plus with her which is a lie, but she thinks she needs someone 24/7 and we have to get stuff done. I've tried to include her but my husband won't include her in stuff he does. It doesn't help I'm busy with the baby so much right now.

I had some problems at that age I used to bite people and intrupt class my mom made me go see a dr and they diagnosed me with ADHD

Maybe try another approach and ask her whats bothering her. Why she's acting that way? I used to be the bully myself.

I've sat her down several times and she'll say she understands and she'll be good for a few days then I get another teachers note.

@star_wars_freak_2010 have you sat her down and talked to her my boys have behavior problems and i understand that they just dont get it sometimes and dont want to listen