Yes me too bc there is nothing wrong with putting your kids first BUT you should also put your self first sometimes. And your marriage. And I don't think entitled kids come from putting them first or not listening or being disrespectful. That comes from how people parent and also when parents give them whatever they want. But I do agree that ppl don't talk as much or make family dinners important. Which I very important!
I get most of what he's saying but I also have to keep in mind this man's status. I don't know how he grew up and who he grew up around but, based on this article he's a middle aged white guy who grew up back when times were different. Back when mom was the head of the house and dad was the head of the family. I can agree to what he says to some extent but, a good bit of it I don't. I think each member of the family is equally as important to the other for different reasons. Yes, the parents made the child and therefore, raise the child to be who they are but also, the child is the responsibility of the parent. They made the choice to have the child and there are some things about the child that need to come before the marital relationship. Basically, what I'm saying is that it's all about balance. This guy is basically saying "respect your elders because they made you" which is a very old way of thinking. I believe in giving respect when it should be given and taking care of your responsibilities. My husband AND my children are my responsibilities. Equally.
You can tell that this is one of those old conservative traditional family men. "Make America great Again" type of dudes lol and that's just not what reality is.
This is how I was raised. I do not feel he's saying kids aren't important at all cause they are. They just aren't the MOST important in the family. You as the parents were here first you established the household etc. he's basically saying make it known your in charge and that a child should stay in a child's place. Too many disrespectful kids these days cause parents are allowing them to feel "equal" when they are not. Yes we are all human and in that sense we are equal. But in my house we are not I'm the CEO and so is daddy and y'all the kids you will listen and obey us. You will respect us. You will not enter in adult conversations and you will know your place. To each their own I would never tell anyone how to parent. But as for me and my household we agree with this and see the actual meaning to it cause that's how both my boyfriend and I were raised @beebaby, @rodriguez13, @twinsandcounting,
Yes it's how I was raised too. And that's how I will raise my kid bc I can't stand disrespectful kids now a days and my son is only 20 months and he knows who is in charge. Bc he knows that when we say something we mean it ! And he isn't not equal he is the kid ! So agree with that.
Just don't agree necessarily how he saying it exactly. Because I Hold my child number one most of the time. And I don't see anything wrong with that but at the same time I agree with everything you're saying. Kids knowing their place and being respectful. And when mom and dad say something it's not up for debate because we are in charge and we are not equal
I for sure believe that in some ways but I also believe that if kids believe they are important part of the family then they prosper better in life in general. My parents lived this way were there life came first and because of that we have no relationship at all. It seemed very distant and unloving. I guess it's to each there own. I treat my children like they are the most important because to me they are, everything I do, every decision I make is for there benefit so its kinda hard to say that they aren't the most important. If your sick and your kid is sick, are you gonna take yourself to the doctoe and not your child. No, of course. If you have nothing left to eat and your kids need to eat, will they get the food. Of course. So it's okay to see it on paper but we do the exact opposite in every situation.
@beebaby, if your sick how can you take care of your child. You must make sure your in good health first so that you can properly take care of your child. If your child is in your best interest then you should always make sure your good first. You have to be good for your child to be good. If your not good then your child can't be good. Nd my children are very important but in this house hold they aren't the most important. They depend on my boyfriend and I and if I'm not in good heathy or if we don't work and make money how will they be good. How will they eat or live ? We make sure we get the stuff done and show them what hard work and respect is. Again like I said before to each their own. What may work for one family may not work for the next. I was raised this way and always felt unconditional love. My mom wasn't cold hearted I knew my place but also knew I was loved and was very comfortable going to my mother with any issues I had. My mom always told me and showed me how much I meant to her but also taught me that with out her I wouldn't be fed, cloth, or have a place to live.
@rodriguez13, it's normal instinct to put your child first as a priority but that doesn't make them the MOST important. You bust your ass day in and day out cause they are first priority but you are most important cause you strive and work your ass off to make sure your child is always good
To each there own for sure. It's all kinda the same thing in the end. During childbirth I personally would die to save my child. Although I do have other children and its selfish to leave them. I would rather my child live then I. We all have our own ideals. I think it can go either way
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I read this and I question a few things about this
Maddy·
Мама сына (1 год)
Yes me too bc there is nothing wrong with putting your kids first BUT you should also put your self first sometimes. And your marriage. And I don't think entitled kids come from putting them first or not listening or being disrespectful. That comes from how people parent and also when parents give them whatever they want. But I do agree that ppl don't talk as much or make family dinners important. Which I very important!
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I get most of what he's saying but I also have to keep in mind this man's status. I don't know how he grew up and who he grew up around but, based on this article he's a middle aged white guy who grew up back when times were different. Back when mom was the head of the house and dad was the head of the family. I can agree to what he says to some extent but, a good bit of it I don't. I think each member of the family is equally as important to the other for different reasons. Yes, the parents made the child and therefore, raise the child to be who they are but also, the child is the responsibility of the parent. They made the choice to have the child and there are some things about the child that need to come before the marital relationship. Basically, what I'm saying is that it's all about balance. This guy is basically saying "respect your elders because they made you" which is a very old way of thinking. I believe in giving respect when it should be given and taking care of your responsibilities. My husband AND my children are my responsibilities. Equally.
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You can tell that this is one of those old conservative traditional family men. "Make America great Again" type of dudes lol and that's just not what reality is.
Amanda·
Мама двоих (младенец)
This is how I was raised. I do not feel he's saying kids aren't important at all cause they are. They just aren't the MOST important in the family. You as the parents were here first you established the household etc. he's basically saying make it known your in charge and that a child should stay in a child's place. Too many disrespectful kids these days cause parents are allowing them to feel "equal" when they are not. Yes we are all human and in that sense we are equal. But in my house we are not I'm the CEO and so is daddy and y'all the kids you will listen and obey us. You will respect us. You will not enter in adult conversations and you will know your place. To each their own I would never tell anyone how to parent. But as for me and my household we agree with this and see the actual meaning to it cause that's how both my boyfriend and I were raised @beebaby, @rodriguez13, @twinsandcounting,
Mrs. Shellz·
Agreed@amaperalta03
Maddy·
Мама сына (1 год)
Yes it's how I was raised too. And that's how I will raise my kid bc I can't stand disrespectful kids now a days and my son is only 20 months and he knows who is in charge. Bc he knows that when we say something we mean it ! And he isn't not equal he is the kid ! So agree with that.
Just don't agree necessarily how he saying it exactly. Because I Hold my child number one most of the time. And I don't see anything wrong with that but at the same time I agree with everything you're saying. Kids knowing their place and being respectful. And when mom and dad say something it's not up for debate because we are in charge and we are not equal
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I for sure believe that in some ways but I also believe that if kids believe they are important part of the family then they prosper better in life in general. My parents lived this way were there life came first and because of that we have no relationship at all. It seemed very distant and unloving. I guess it's to each there own. I treat my children like they are the most important because to me they are, everything I do, every decision I make is for there benefit so its kinda hard to say that they aren't the most important. If your sick and your kid is sick, are you gonna take yourself to the doctoe and not your child. No, of course. If you have nothing left to eat and your kids need to eat, will they get the food. Of course. So it's okay to see it on paper but we do the exact opposite in every situation.
Amanda·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@beebaby, if your sick how can you take care of your child. You must make sure your in good health first so that you can properly take care of your child. If your child is in your best interest then you should always make sure your good first. You have to be good for your child to be good. If your not good then your child can't be good. Nd my children are very important but in this house hold they aren't the most important. They depend on my boyfriend and I and if I'm not in good heathy or if we don't work and make money how will they be good. How will they eat or live ? We make sure we get the stuff done and show them what hard work and respect is. Again like I said before to each their own. What may work for one family may not work for the next. I was raised this way and always felt unconditional love. My mom wasn't cold hearted I knew my place but also knew I was loved and was very comfortable going to my mother with any issues I had. My mom always told me and showed me how much I meant to her but also taught me that with out her I wouldn't be fed, cloth, or have a place to live.
Amanda·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@mrsshell, 💪🏼
Amanda·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@rodriguez13, it's normal instinct to put your child first as a priority but that doesn't make them the MOST important. You bust your ass day in and day out cause they are first priority but you are most important cause you strive and work your ass off to make sure your child is always good
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To each there own for sure. It's all kinda the same thing in the end. During childbirth I personally would die to save my child. Although I do have other children and its selfish to leave them. I would rather my child live then I. We all have our own ideals. I think it can go either way