So I need to rant. I'm 24 years old and I have no kids of my own. My SO has two kids that I have…
So I need to rant. I'm 24 years old and I have no kids of my own. My SO has two kids that I have been raising as my own for a little over 2 years now. I am a stay at home step mom and do everything for these kids and house. I get no help from him at all when it comes to his kids. More than anything I want to be a mother. I want a child of my own. When my SO got together he told me he wanted one more child. Well tonight he literally sat me down and told me he didn't want anymore kids. I'm completely heartbroken. It's like he took my dreams and throw them away.. I'm so hurt and hiding my emotions cause he is so happy with his decision..
Rhiannon V·
Мама двоих (2 года, 3 года)
You have to let him know it's not just his decision. If you let it go too long he's going to think he can get away with making decisions for you. Sit him back down and tell him that just won't work for you. It's not like he's the stay at home parent, here. I hope it gets better for you and you get to have your own. ❤
Naomi Israel ·
Did you remind him that he told you he wanted another child and how much you want one?
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@rhealize I told him how I felt and he told me that I could just leave him and find someone new.
Gina·
Sorry babe. You shouldn't hide your emotions from him. You went into this relationship with certain expectations and he should know if you're upset by this. At this point you need to ask yourself if this is a deal breaker or not. You're still young and can move forward and find someone who shares the same family goals as you.
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@embracemthrhd2 he knows I've had baby fever for a while now and he just told me he wasn't ready until now.
Naomi Israel ·
Well then if you really want a baby then you dont have to stay... but then I also understand since you have been the mother figure for the kids its not that easy to just pick up and leave.... 😔this is really hard i know cause i also am a step mother of 2...
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@embracemthrhd2 @ginz I can't just leave his kids. I love them like they are my own. They mean the world to me.
p·
It takes a very strong woman to fully take care of step kids, i personally wouldn't be able to do, I really hope he realizes this before he pushes you away with his decision, sorry 😐
Naomi Israel ·
I completely understand
Naomi Israel ·
Yeah, so sorry he put you in this predicament... 😟
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@p0790 it's definitely not easy and it's at the point where most days I feel unappreciated cause he isn't willing to help out when it comes to the kids or house. I honestly feel without me the kids would be living in the system
p·
Those kids deff need you, but he also needs to realize and understand how to make you happy, have you tried bringing this to his attention? Like let him know he needs to also raise his kids ?
Gina·
I get that. But like you said, you want to have children of your own. Hopefully you can put your foot down and he comes around. Seems really selfish of him on top of having you take care of his kids.
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If he can just say you can leave him, then you probably should. Yeah it'll be hard to leave the other kids but they are his responsibility. You have to be happy too. He's being selfish.
meme·
@ablaub, damn well with that response fuck him find someone new that comment he gave u hurt my feelings wow what an ungrateful asshole