Nbr. I need advice ladies before i lose it with my mother in law.
This woman moans constantly about having her grandson (its not that often),she kept going on about it so much the other eve that in the end i said i would look after him. This is the same woman that hardly interacts with Olivia (we live with them),has only held her twice (shes nearly 4mths). She just doenst seem to be that bothered about her grandchildren n it makes me so mad n upset on their behalf. Her daughter has had enough n wants to say something (her mum charged them £250 a month to look after her grandson). She went away for 2wks n when she got back didint even acknowledge Olivia which broke my heart.
Is this normal? Im not English so i dont know if its a culture thing but my mum dotes on her grandchildren n Skypes Olivia without fail everday (she lives abroad). I just cant get my head round it. We live with them so i dont know wether saying something will just make it awkward😒
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No its not culture here. But my parents are the same they dont bother with their grandchildren
@chesscalouise2 yep thank you,i think so too. Everyone that comes over always wants cuddles with the baby etc,while she just sits there in her chair watching tv x
The fact you live with her and she has held your daughter twice is very very strange x @missy84
@chesscalouise2 yes money is very important to her😒. She chooses not to work,even thou they forever struggling apparently although she gets £500 from us every month n her husband works while dealing with a bad back. Shes beyond selfish! X
I don't get involved with them to be honest. But my husbands sis in law is always saying how they don't bother like grandparents do. It must be hard for you as your parents are not here, I would feel the same. But don't care about them. Your child only needs good and true people around her. @missy84
@kayteamay Portugal. They not that old only in their 60s. Although she was like this with her first grandkid. I just dont understand.
My mother and grandmother adore my children and constantly spoil them and me but my other half's family are horrible not baby people at all were all white British so wouldnt say its culture thing maybe just the way people have been raised she sounds like a very unhappy women too me and everything seems to be about money x @missy84
Where are you from? My irish parents dote on their grandchildren whereas my english unlaws act like they are a burden. I dont know if its a cultural thing, i think its an age thing. My parents are in their early 50s but my inlaws arehesding towards 70.
@firsttimemummy86 have u called them up on it or would you?
It really annoys me as my parents live abroad and it breaks my heart that the only grandparents she has around dont give much of a shit 😔
Arrrrr babes your all gonna have to sit her down and tell her and say that enough is enough there is only so much and she needs to know
I don't think its a cultural thing, my husbands parents don't care about there grandkids either. They don't go as far as charging money but they don't behave like grandparents should. Never call the kids over or ask how they are ect. Whereas my parents lif is all about their grandchildren now @missy84
@mummagordon he is even more annoyed than me. Especially when he sees my mum with Olivia and says why cant his own mother be the same. It breaks my heart
No please don't they bk that's how English are there are people out there that are like that how does your partner feel about it
It's not a cultural thing. It's a personal issue those individuals have & how they behave. Both my boys grandparents adore & can't get enough of them. They have aunts & an uncle from the same family that aren't bothered though lol. It's a shame as I value my family & love seeing my niece & nephew. I don't understand either how others don't.