My oldest daughters bio fathers wife messaged me on fb. Like wtf you don't get to message me 2 years…

My oldest daughters bio fathers wife messaged me on fb. Like wtf you don't get to message me 2 years after he sexually abused my child you do not have the right to ask how she's doing. You, him, or his family have no right to message me asking about my child! I wanna tell her something so bad but I'm being the bigger person and trying to let it go but it's so hard to hold in what I have to say to her.