My husband, MIL, and mom all say I should get a tubal ligation once the baby's born. It has been a hard pregnancy but I…

Is this your first

Yes

i wouldnt do it this early either

That is a very important decision to make! Don't let anyone pressure you into doing it if you don't want to.

Also, that's an incredibly rude thing for anyone to tell you.

@jess007 that's exactly what I thought like wow...how rude.

Dont do it!! I had two high risk pregs 15 years ago had them tied cut and burnt because I took bad advice I'm 34 had a tubal reversal ($6000) and luckily it worked we were very blessed and this pregnancy is a risk free one so far everything is very healthy.. I just wldnt do it again or recommend anyone tying there tubes.. Its almost too permanent.. Only a numbered few have tubal reversal success

@mrs.collins that's good advice for sure thank you

Your most welcome sweetie <3

Think it would just make more sense for hubby to get a vasectomy, honestly... @mrs.collins

Yup especially if they are the ones creating havoc over what "you should do" vasectomy is simple and recovery is much faster for men.. Let him get the "permanent" procedure, lol. A friend of ours had one done and his wife got pregnant about 6 months after they actually separated because he thought she cheated.. Come to find out DNA proved he's the dad, sometimes that happens

@mrs.collins I've heard that it happens. ..I'm looking into birth control methods right now

Or just find a birth control that suits you both not so permanently idk.. My best advice from experience.. I'm sorry you're going thru this :/

@mrs.collins it's alright I know they mean well...theyre just not very good at expressing it. I've been talking with my OB about it because I guess I have to sign a form like 30 days before delivery if I want the procedure and I told her I needed to think so she gave me two weeks

Oh I see.. Well I wish u the best hun.. <3 just be sure, its YOUR decision and nobody else's

@mrs.collins absolutely! Thank you so much

Most welcome!