thank you @sara-lou, and you are right though about it all x

I agree if you sit down & list the pros & cons you may never find the 'perfect time' to have kids. I think being more financially stable is a good starting point though. If we were struggling or needing help/support I definitely wouldn't consider adding to the mix. However even when your financially stable things can change which is what we're experiencing now. Also if your struggling looking after one child, emotionally or whatever then again adding to that with another child wouldn't be a good idea. You'd just be doubling your work load. Physically and mentally. We're never ready for any situation though but you learn to deal with it lol

thank you and honesty is the best policy lol 😊xx

Aww Hun sorry to hear about your angel babies, but remember every pregnancy is different, also to me it sounds like you might not be mentally prepared for another baby I could be wrong but it's just an outsiders point of view, If you want another baby don't let things hold you back do what makes you feel happy, xx

i'm just worried, i have no help from my family or my partners family, no babysitter, only a few friends but i don't see them, and i work around my partner. It's really hard now and i know i'm not going to get the support that i'm going to need...plus i can't tell if i'm more scared of having another baby or losing another( i've lost 4 before my little girl) if i lost another baby now it would kill me and put me back to square one xx

It doesn't sound bad at all hun, as long as you got good support around you (partner, friends, gp, etc) you should be fine, personally I think routine is key and I know the first few weeks will be hectic until we all adjust, my partner works a lot and we barely see him so I understand your worry, I suppose you have to feel mentally and physically prepared yourself cause it'll be hard big it's doable xx

@gabilicious, thank you for your comment and i want a small age gap between my children but just not sure if i could cope, emotionally, mentally and physically (i know it sounds bad). i pretty much do it all myself now with my little girl, just don't think i could do it (got no family that's willing to help either) xx

You just have to find what works for you and your family best, when baby no 2 will be born my daughter will be 2 weeks away from turning 2, we wanted a small age gap and the situation is right for us just do what feels right and works for you cause everyone's situation is different xx