Ugh my wife and I are trying to decide if we want to have one more after baby boy is here. Once he arrives there will be…

Ugh my wife and I are trying to decide if we want to have one more after baby boy is here. Once he arrives there will be a 14 and a 12 year difference between him and his siblings and we don't want him to feel lonely. Downside is I'm already 31 now and I know that's not old but I do have some health problems. My wife doesn't want to be the one to carry and it's a lot of work for us to conceive.